The Important Information Confusion Has For You

By Dr. Margaret Paul December 09, 2019

Discover what information your confusion is giving you.

There are two kinds of situations that can cause confusion:

1) You might feel confused when your wounded self is in charge and you are judging yourself. This confusion is telling you that your wounded self . . . → Read More: The Important Information Confusion Has For You

Letting Go Of Shame

By Dr. Margaret Paul October 21, 2019

No matter how badly you currently feel about yourself, you can heal your shame and feel excited about your life.

“I have no value.” “I’m not good enough.” “I don’t like myself.” “If they really knew me, they wouldn’t like me.” “I don’t deserve to . . . → Read More: Letting Go Of Shame

Resistance to Being a Loving Adult

By Dr. Margaret Paul October 07, 2019

Have you experienced feeling resistance to being a loving adult and taking responsibility for your feelings?

When I first started practicing Inner Bonding, I was in much resistance to taking responsibility for myself. I had spent too many years believing that getting love – and trying to . . . → Read More: Resistance to Being a Loving Adult

What’s Loving to Yourself – and What Isn’t?

By Dr. Margaret Paul May 28, 2019

Loving actions are often the opposite of actions that are self-abandoning.

Discovering the loving action toward ourselves in a particular situation – Step 4 of Inner Bonding – is a wonderful and creative process. However, since we have so few role models for loving action toward ourselves, . . . → Read More: What’s Loving to Yourself – and What Isn’t?

Taking The Lid Off Your Feelings

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 17, 2019

For a moment, go back to being a little child and remember… remember an adult being unloving to you:

An adult (parent, other caregiver, teacher, relative, religious figure, or some other adult in authority) yells at you. An adult invalidates you. An adult ignores you. . . . → Read More: Taking The Lid Off Your Feelings

Attracting at Our Common Level of Woundedness

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 11, 2019

Are you attracting people who turn out to be very controlling or unavailable? Discover how you are attracting at your common level of woundedness.

I have often stated that we attract each other at our common level of woundedness or our common level of health, . . . → Read More: Attracting at Our Common Level of Woundedness