Controlling Behavior as a Cry for Connection

Controlling Behavior as a Cry for Connection

By Dr. Margaret Paul September 02, 2019

How do you respond when you feel that your friend, family member, or partner is trying to control you? Do you counter by trying to control them – giving yourself up, resisting, getting angry, blaming or withdrawing?

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Do You Have The Courage to Be a Loving Parent?

Do you have the courage to risk loving yourself – even when you might encounter your children’s uncaring behavior?

Most of us really don’t like it when someone is angry with us. We don’t like it when someone goes into resistance to helping us when we need help, instead of caring about us. We . . . → Read More: Do You Have The Courage to Be a Loving Parent?

“How Do I Deal With My Critical Mother?”

Dealing with critical people, especially a parent, is a challenge for all of us. Here are some options for dealing with a critical mother.


Having a critical mother is a big challenge. I know, because I grew up with an extremely critical mother. I can certainly relate to Lori, who asked the follow question:

“Dr. Paul, my question is about what to do to take care of myself with my mother. She comes to visit me every so often, brings her husband along, and goes out of her way to put down everything about my life and the city I live in when she is here. It is heart breaking because I am a loving person and choose to keep my heart open, yet she goes out of her way to hurt me by putting down my life. I want to be me, and be loving and giving, yet it hurts a lot to be open with her. Can you provide some Inner Bonding thoughts on this? Thank you so much!” Continue reading “How Do I Deal With My Critical Mother?”

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Finally! Studies Prove That Spanking Doesn’t Work

Do you hit your children? If you want to raise healthy children, reading this article is a must. . . . → Read More: Finally! Studies Prove That Spanking Doesn’t Work

Can You Love Others?

What is loving to yourself and others is not always clear. This article presents some important questions to consider. . . . → Read More: Can You Love Others?

A Problem with Today’s Parenting

Many parents try to be far better parents than their parents were, yet their children grow up feeling lost and empty. Discover why in this article.

There was an interesting article in The Atlantic, entitled “How to Land Your Kid in Therapy: Why the obsession with our kids’ happiness may be dooming them to unhappy adulthoods. A therapist and mother reports.”

http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2011/07/how-to-land-your-kid-in-therapy/8555/

Feeling lost

The article is about the way many parents focus much of their energy on being there for their children, but their children end up feeling lost and empty. Continue reading A Problem with Today’s Parenting

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