Choosing to be a Loving Adult

By Dr. Margaret Paul January 14, 2020

Kevin shares his inner battle that led to him to choose to be a loving adult.

Some years back, I had the moving experience of working with Kevin (not his real name), a thirty-seven year old very talented branding artist we had hired to work . . . → Read More: Choosing to be a Loving Adult

How to Move Out of Your Ego Wounded Self

By Dr. Margaret Paul

November 18, 2019

If you sometimes get stuck in your wounded self and can’t see how to get back into your loving adult, here are some ideas that may help you.

Sometimes, when we get stuck in our wounded self, it is hard to wind our way . . . → Read More: How to Move Out of Your Ego Wounded Self

What’s Loving to Yourself – and What Isn’t?

By Dr. Margaret Paul May 28, 2019

Loving actions are often the opposite of actions that are self-abandoning.

Discovering the loving action toward ourselves in a particular situation – Step 4 of Inner Bonding – is a wonderful and creative process. However, since we have so few role models for loving action toward ourselves, . . . → Read More: What’s Loving to Yourself – and What Isn’t?

Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 04, 2019

Discover how self-abandonment can lead to using and objectifying others sexually.

Nicholas consulted with me because of problems he was having in his marriage. He was very distressed that his wife, Kayla, never wanted to have sex with him.

In the course of our work, it . . . → Read More: Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction

Is Your Caretaking Covering Up Your Heartbreak?

Are you giving yourself up to avoid feeling the heartache and heartbreak of others’ unloving behavior toward you?

Jenny grew up with a narcissistic mother who was incessantly demanding attention and demanding to have her way. Her mother would get furious when her husband or children didn’t do what she wanted them to . . . → Read More: Is Your Caretaking Covering Up Your Heartbreak?

A Challenging Journey: From Mind Focus to Body Focus

A Challenging Journey: From Mind Focus to Body Focus

By Dr. Margaret Paul January 28, 2019

Do you spend most of your time focused in your mind or your body? Are you staying in your mind as a way to avoid responsibility for your feelings?

“Breathe into your body and notice what . . . → Read More: A Challenging Journey: From Mind Focus to Body Focus