Tag Archives: relationship help

How do you Make Others Responsible for Your Painful Feelings?

We have all learned many ways of trying to avoid or get rid of our painful feelings. Many of these ways are fairly obvious: addictions to substances and activities, staying in your mind rather than in your body, or judging yourself. Another major way we avoid or try to get rid of our painful feelings...

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Will Your Next Marriage be Better?

Discover the surprising statistics about second and third marriages, and why they have such a poor success rate. “It’s time for me to move on. I’ve learned so much – I just know that next time it will be better.” “Our new relationship has a great chance, because we’ve both been married before and have...

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Stop Taking the Bait of Projection!

Do you know how to take care of yourself when you are at the other end of projection? All of us have projected our own thoughts, feelings, motivations and desires onto others, and have been at the other end of projection. Many of us learned to project onto others as we were growing up, when...

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Why Don’t You Speak Up For Yourself?

My counseling clients often complain to me about interactions they had with a partner, friend, parents or co-worker. When I asked the question, “Why didn’t you speak up for yourself?” here are the most common answers I receive: “I want to keep the peace.” “I don’t want to rock the boat.” “I didn’t know what...

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Relationships: Attract at Your Common Level of Self-Love

Learn to attract people at your common level of self-love, rather than at your common level of self-abandonment.

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