What’s Loving to Yourself – and What Isn’t?

By Dr. Margaret Paul May 28, 2019

Loving actions are often the opposite of actions that are self-abandoning.

Discovering the loving action toward ourselves in a particular situation – Step 4 of Inner Bonding – is a wonderful and creative process. However, since we have so few role models for loving action toward ourselves, . . . → Read More: What’s Loving to Yourself – and What Isn’t?

Taking The Lid Off Your Feelings

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 17, 2019

For a moment, go back to being a little child and remember… remember an adult being unloving to you:

An adult (parent, other caregiver, teacher, relative, religious figure, or some other adult in authority) yells at you. An adult invalidates you. An adult ignores you. . . . → Read More: Taking The Lid Off Your Feelings

Attracting at Our Common Level of Woundedness

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 11, 2019

Are you attracting people who turn out to be very controlling or unavailable? Discover how you are attracting at your common level of woundedness.

I have often stated that we attract each other at our common level of woundedness or our common level of health, . . . → Read More: Attracting at Our Common Level of Woundedness

Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 04, 2019

Discover how self-abandonment can lead to using and objectifying others sexually.

Nicholas consulted with me because of problems he was having in his marriage. He was very distressed that his wife, Kayla, never wanted to have sex with him.

In the course of our work, it . . . → Read More: Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction

Is Your Caretaking Covering Up Your Heartbreak?

Are you giving yourself up to avoid feeling the heartache and heartbreak of others’ unloving behavior toward you?

Jenny grew up with a narcissistic mother who was incessantly demanding attention and demanding to have her way. Her mother would get furious when her husband or children didn’t do what she wanted them to . . . → Read More: Is Your Caretaking Covering Up Your Heartbreak?

Are You Ready to Give Up Giving Yourself Up?

 

By Dr. Margaret Paul January 14, 2019

Is giving yourself up working to create inner and relationship joy? If not, then you might want to consider learning to love yourself instead.

Were you trained as a child to give yourself up to be loved? Did you learn to confuse love with . . . → Read More: Are You Ready to Give Up Giving Yourself Up?