Letting Go Of Shame

By Dr. Margaret Paul October 21, 2019

No matter how badly you currently feel about yourself, you can heal your shame and feel excited about your life.

“I have no value.” “I’m not good enough.” “I don’t like myself.” “If they really knew me, they wouldn’t like me.” “I don’t deserve to . . . → Read More: Letting Go Of Shame

Resistance to Being a Loving Adult

By Dr. Margaret Paul October 07, 2019

Have you experienced feeling resistance to being a loving adult and taking responsibility for your feelings?

When I first started practicing Inner Bonding, I was in much resistance to taking responsibility for myself. I had spent too many years believing that getting love – and trying to . . . → Read More: Resistance to Being a Loving Adult

What’s Loving to Yourself – and What Isn’t?

By Dr. Margaret Paul May 28, 2019

Loving actions are often the opposite of actions that are self-abandoning.

Discovering the loving action toward ourselves in a particular situation – Step 4 of Inner Bonding – is a wonderful and creative process. However, since we have so few role models for loving action toward ourselves, . . . → Read More: What’s Loving to Yourself – and What Isn’t?

Taking The Lid Off Your Feelings

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 17, 2019

For a moment, go back to being a little child and remember… remember an adult being unloving to you:

An adult (parent, other caregiver, teacher, relative, religious figure, or some other adult in authority) yells at you. An adult invalidates you. An adult ignores you. . . . → Read More: Taking The Lid Off Your Feelings

Attracting at Our Common Level of Woundedness

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 11, 2019

Are you attracting people who turn out to be very controlling or unavailable? Discover how you are attracting at your common level of woundedness.

I have often stated that we attract each other at our common level of woundedness or our common level of health, . . . → Read More: Attracting at Our Common Level of Woundedness

Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 04, 2019

Discover how self-abandonment can lead to using and objectifying others sexually.

Nicholas consulted with me because of problems he was having in his marriage. He was very distressed that his wife, Kayla, never wanted to have sex with him.

In the course of our work, it . . . → Read More: Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction