Taking The Lid Off Your Feelings

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 17, 2019

For a moment, go back to being a little child and remember… remember an adult being unloving to you:

An adult (parent, other caregiver, teacher, relative, religious figure, or some other adult in authority) yells at you. An adult invalidates you. An adult ignores you. . . . → Read More: Taking The Lid Off Your Feelings

Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 04, 2019

Discover how self-abandonment can lead to using and objectifying others sexually.

Nicholas consulted with me because of problems he was having in his marriage. He was very distressed that his wife, Kayla, never wanted to have sex with him.

In the course of our work, it . . . → Read More: Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction

Is Your Caretaking Covering Up Your Heartbreak?

Are you giving yourself up to avoid feeling the heartache and heartbreak of others’ unloving behavior toward you?

Jenny grew up with a narcissistic mother who was incessantly demanding attention and demanding to have her way. Her mother would get furious when her husband or children didn’t do what she wanted them to . . . → Read More: Is Your Caretaking Covering Up Your Heartbreak?

The Important Messages From Our Deeper Painful Feelings

By Dr. Margaret Paul February 18, 2019

Do you know what your painful existential feelings are telling you? Discover the incredibly valuable information these feelings have for you.

One of the basic tenets of Inner Bonding is that our feelings are our inner guidance system. Our wounded feelings such as anxiety, depression, . . . → Read More: The Important Messages From Our Deeper Painful Feelings

The Power of Being “Grokked”

By Dr. Margaret Paul February 11, 2019

It is profoundly healing when another is able to deeply understand and empathize with our core painful feelings.

In 1961, author Robert A. Heinlein coined the term “grok” in his best-selling book, “Stranger in a Strange Land”.

The Oxford English Dictionary defines grok as “to . . . → Read More: The Power of Being “Grokked”

Do You Feel Connected With Your Partner and Others?

By Dr. Margaret Paul February 04, 2019

Do you have a problem feeling connected with others? It might be because you are living in your head rather than in your heart.

When you were growing up, did you learn to protect against the pain of not being loved, by disconnecting from your . . . → Read More: Do You Feel Connected With Your Partner and Others?