Is it in your highest good to stay away from people who trigger you? The answer might surprise you.
I’m sure you’ve had the experience of consistently being triggered by a certain kind of person. I certainly have. Before Inner Bonding, I tended to get irritated by people who pushed my buttons. Now, I know that these people are my best teachers.
Rosa is struggling with this issue:
“Do certain people trigger our wounded selves while others do not? If I practice Inner Bonding long enough could I become consistent in not being triggered? Should I avoid people who trigger me most intensely – like my lover?” Continue reading “Should I Avoid People Who Push My Buttons?”
Knowing the difference between caring and caretaking can sometimes be confusing. Discover how to tell the difference.
Have you sometimes wondered how to know the difference between caring and caretaking? This is the question that Arielle is asking:
“I’m mindful of my over-giving tendency. But often I don’t realize I’m caretaking until after the fact when I feel drained. How can I know (before I take the action) when my giving is really caretaking?”
To know the difference, you need to become aware of a number of issues. Here are some questions you can ask yourself:
Continue reading “How Can I Know When I’m Caring And When I’m Caretaking?”
Discover whether or not a long distance relationship will work for you.
As more and more people meet through online dating or at events away from home, and as people get transferred to other cities for their jobs, long distance relationships have become more common. Sometimes they are very challenging and sometimes they work out well.
If you are an insecure, anxious, needy or jealous person, then a long distance relationship is likely not for you. Until you learn to love yourself enough to not worry about what your partner is doing, and to take loving care of your own feelings, it will likely be very stressful for you. Continue reading How to Survive a Long Distance Relationship
Discover when compromise is healthy and when it’s self-abandoning.
Compromise! What does this word conjure up for you? Is it is a positive or negative word for you? Does it bring up a sense of loving resolution, or a sense of losing yourself and losing your integrity?
When you think about compromising, what are . . . → Read More: When To Compromise…And When Not To Compromise
Do you sometimes feel trapped with some who wants to be listened to but doesn’t want to listen to you?
One of the common complaints I hear from my clients is that they listen well but they end up just listening and never being heard.
This is the issue that Ginger wrote to me . . . → Read More: Are You Stuck in One-Way Relationships?
Do you often see people as you want them to be rather than as they are? Has this caused you problems in your relationships?
“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” —Anais Nin
A variation on the above quote might be, “We don’t see people as they are – . . . → Read More: Do You Make People Up?