Tag Archives: relationship advice

What Does Having Sex Mean to You?

I’ve been counseling individuals and couples for many years. More than half the time, when couples are having problems or the relationship is dissolving, sex is one of the major issues. There are a number of common scenarios: After a long marriage with regular sex, he comes home to discover that his wife has left....

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How do you Make Others Responsible for Your Painful Feelings?

We have all learned many ways of trying to avoid or get rid of our painful feelings. Many of these ways are fairly obvious: addictions to substances and activities, staying in your mind rather than in your body, or judging yourself. Another major way we avoid or try to get rid of our painful feelings...

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Will Your Next Marriage be Better?

Discover the surprising statistics about second and third marriages, and why they have such a poor success rate. “It’s time for me to move on. I’ve learned so much – I just know that next time it will be better.” “Our new relationship has a great chance, because we’ve both been married before and have...

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Stop Taking the Bait of Projection!

Do you know how to take care of yourself when you are at the other end of projection? All of us have projected our own thoughts, feelings, motivations and desires onto others, and have been at the other end of projection. Many of us learned to project onto others as we were growing up, when...

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Feeling Disconnected From Your Partner?

“We can’t seem to connect anymore.” This is one of the most common complaints I hear in my counseling practice. We all know that it is generally easy to connect at the beginning of a relationship – before all the protections and defenses come up. But what do you do to reconnect once you feel...

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