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If you grew up in a family where one or both parents used anger to control you, then anger likely plays a role in your life now. Did you grow up with anger in your household? Did one or both of your parents use anger as a way to keep you in line . . . → Read More: Anger And Other Forms of Control Is your relationship stuck in a pattern of blame where you both feel like victims of the other person? One of the most common dynamics I see with the couples I work with is that each of them is convinced that if only their partner would see what he or she is doing to cause the relationship problems, their relationship would get so much better. They each see clearly what the other person is doing to cause their problems, but they are generally clueless regarding when they are doing. They truly believe that they are just reacting to the other’s unloving behavior instead of understanding that they each brought their own controlling strategies into the relationship. An example of this is a typical situation that frequently occurs between Gavin and Julie. Continue reading “If Only You Would Get What You Are Doing!”       Get clear on when it’s appropriate to speak up for yourself and when it isn’t. Are you confused about if and when to speak up for yourself? The question to ask yourself is: “Are you speaking up for yourself to take loving care of yourself, or to change the other person?” For example, let’s . . . → Read More: When and Why to Speak Up For Yourself Is it in your highest good to stay away from people who trigger you? The answer might surprise you. I’m sure you’ve had the experience of consistently being triggered by a certain kind of person. I certainly have. Before Inner Bonding, I tended to get irritated by people who pushed my buttons. Now, I know that these people are my best teachers. Rosa is struggling with this issue: “Do certain people trigger our wounded selves while others do not? If I practice Inner Bonding long enough could I become consistent in not being triggered? Should I avoid people who trigger me most intensely – like my lover?” Continue reading “Should I Avoid People Who Push My Buttons?”  Comments are closed  Relationships  emotional healing, Inner Bonding, intent to learn, Margaret Paul, passion, relationship advice, relationship chemistry, relationship help, Relationships, romance, Triggers Discover whether or not a long distance relationship will work for you. As more and more people meet through online dating or at events away from home, and as people get transferred to other cities for their jobs, long distance relationships have become more common. Sometimes they are very challenging and sometimes they work out well. The Challenges
Discover when compromise is healthy and when it’s self-abandoning. Compromise! What does this word conjure up for you? Is it is a positive or negative word for you? Does it bring up a sense of loving resolution, or a sense of losing yourself and losing your integrity? When you think about compromising, what are . . . → Read More: When To Compromise…And When Not To Compromise |
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