“When Someone’s Behavior Affects Me, What Can I Do?”

When someone’s behavior is affecting you, what can you do, other than blame them?


We Are Not Separate

Some authors suggest that, when we are healthy enough, we will not be affected by others‘ unloving verbal behavior. We will rise above it and not take their words personally – that “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.”

I strongly disagree.

Of course we are affected by others. Even a mean look can shoot through you like a poison dart. This is because on the soul level, we are not separate. On the soul level, we are One. Continue reading “When Someone’s Behavior Affects Me, What Can I Do?”

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Why Racism?

Discover some of the underlying causes of racism and what is necessary to heal this scourge of our society.

I do not pretend to be an expert on what causes a person to be a racist, but I would like to explore some ideas based on the principles of Inner Bonding.

Those of you . . . → Read More: Why Racism?

“How Can I Not Get Hurt By Others’ Judgments?”

Do you have an expectation that if you were emotionally healthy, you would not feel hurt in the face of others’ judgments or uncaring behavior?

This is not true! Let me explain.

When you are emotionally healthy, you are less likely to be devastated by others’ behaviors, because you have learned to not take them personally. But your heart can still feel loneliness and heartache in response to others’ unloving behavior.

It is very important to learn to lovingly manage these core painful feelings of the heart.

The feelings of loneliness and heartache have vital information for you about what is going on with another person. They tell you whether the other person is open or closed, loving or unloving. You need this information in order to make good decisions about how to take care of yourself around others. Continue reading “How Can I Not Get Hurt By Others’ Judgments?”

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Relationships: Attract at Your Common Level of Self-Love

Learn to attract people at your common level of self-love, rather than at your common level of self-abandonment. . . . → Read More: Relationships: Attract at Your Common Level of Self-Love