Managing Conflict: Opportunities or Deal Breakers?

Managing Conflict: Opportunities or Deal Breakers? By Dr. Margaret Paul March 29, 2021

How do you handle differences in your relationships? Do you fight or do you learn?

If you are in a relationship, do you get into conflicts over your differences? If you are not in a relationship, are you looking . . . → Read More: Managing Conflict: Opportunities or Deal Breakers?

Does Another’s Wounded Self Trigger Your Wounded Self?

By Dr. Margaret Paul September 28, 2020

Do you disconnect in the face of others’ disconnection? Do you get angry in the face of others’ anger? Discover how to stay connected with yourself. Jenna was angry that she kept getting triggered into her wounded self when her husband, Seth, was in his wounded . . . → Read More: Does Another’s Wounded Self Trigger Your Wounded Self?

You Don’t Really Know Someone Until You Have Conflict

 

By Dr. Margaret Paul June 08, 2020

Do you sometimes wonder if you really know the person you are dating?

People often ask me how they can know whether or not someone they are dating is really an open and caring person.

“He seems open and caring, but how can I . . . → Read More: You Don’t Really Know Someone Until You Have Conflict

Anger And Other Forms of Control

If you grew up in a family where one or both parents used anger to control you, then anger likely plays a role in your life now.

Did you grow up with anger in your household? Did one or both of your parents use anger as a way to keep you in line . . . → Read More: Anger And Other Forms of Control

How Not To Have A Wonderful Celebration

The control-resist system guarantees you won’t have a wonderful anything.

Adriann and Chandler are a sweet, successful couple in their early thirties. In spite of loving each other deeply, they often find themselves in conflict over seemingly minor issues, as most couples do. Recently, just one week before their 4th anniversary, they had a . . . → Read More: How Not To Have A Wonderful Celebration

Staying Centered in Conflict

Are you conflict-avoidant? Does conflict terrify you? Discover how to heal this.


Angela writes:

“I avoid conflict as much as possible because I cannot handle the anxiety it produces in me, as if I am going to die, even when I am in the presence of other people that are in conflict. I am aware that I abandon myself many times because I do not stand or fight for what I believe is right for me. I know we are going to encounter conflict in our daily life, it is part of it and I do not want to keep on feeling small at the presence of conflict. I want to be able to speak my truth, ask for what I need or stand for what I believe is right. How can I transform this, that is, how can I handle the anxiety and approach conflict in a more centered way?”

I completely understand what Angela experiences, as I used to feel the same anxiety, feeling like I was going to die. It took me many years to understand what I needed to do in conflict to no longer fear it. Continue reading Staying Centered in Conflict

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