“How Do I Ask For What I Need?”

By Dr. Margaret Paul November 30, 2020

Have you often wondered how to ask for what you want in a way that is not experienced as demanding or needy?

In a healthy, loving relationship, partners ask each other for what they need, and generally receive a caring response. But sometimes this can . . . → Read More: “How Do I Ask For What I Need?”

When You Love Yourself, You Love Others

Are you being selfish if you do what brings you joy, even if others don’t like it? Do you feel trapped, believing you can’t really take loving care of yourself without being unloving to others?

One of the questions I often hear from my clients is, “If I take care of myself and . . . → Read More: When You Love Yourself, You Love Others

When You Love Yourself, You Let Others Off the Hook

Frequently, when I start to work with a new client, they believe that loving their self is selfish. Nothing could be further from the truth. A more accurate definition of selfish is expecting others to give themselves up and do for you what you can and need to be doing for yourself.

Letting Others Off The Hook

How are others let off the hook when you love yourself? Let us count the ways!

• Others don’t need to read your mind when you are meeting many of your own needs, and asking outright when there is something you need help with.

• Others don’t need to hold back, be careful, or walk on eggshells when you are taking care of your own feelings. Continue reading When You Love Yourself, You Let Others Off the Hook

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