Do You Have The Courage to Be a Loving Parent?

Do you have the courage to risk loving yourself – even when you might encounter your children’s uncaring behavior?

Most of us really don’t like it when someone is angry with us. We don’t like it when someone goes into resistance to helping us when we need help, instead of caring about us. We . . . → Read More: Do You Have The Courage to Be a Loving Parent?

No Sex in Your Relationship? Discover Why!

Do you and your partner have conflicts over sex?

Does your relationship suffer from a lack of sex? Aside from the problems of premature ejaculation, impotence, and lack of orgasm — which can often be handled through sexual therapy and education — I have found that there are two common sexual problems in committed . . . → Read More: No Sex in Your Relationship? Discover Why!

Caretaking: A Covert Form of Narcissism

Caretaking is NOT the opposite of narcissism!

I used to think that caretaking was the opposite of narcissism. I thought that narcissists were people who demanded that others give themselves up to care-take the narcissist. I thought that caretakers were people who were programmed to take care of others instead of themselves. I thought that caretakers needed some healthy narcissism and that takers/narcissists needed more compassion for others.

Now I know that there is a bit more to it. Caretakers do give themselves up to take care of others, but underneath their caretaking, they have the same agenda as the narcissist – to be taken care of by the other person.

The kind of narcissism I’m talking about here is about making another person responsible for your feelings and needs.

We all have this kind of narcissism in our ego wounded selves. The wounded self believes that our good feelings come from getting love, rather than from being loving with ourselves and others. Continue reading Caretaking: A Covert Form of Narcissism

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Stop Fighting, Start Loving with Inner Bonding®

If you are in conflict with your partner, then it is likely one of you is a taker and the other is a caretaker, neither loving yourself enough to share love with your partner.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® . . . → Read More: Stop Fighting, Start Loving with Inner Bonding®

Core Sadness vs. Wounded Sadness

Discover the vast difference between core sadness and wounded sadness, and what causes each. . . . → Read More: Core Sadness vs. Wounded Sadness