Are You Addicted to the Past?

Are you using the past to avoid feeling some current painful feelings?

I could see immediately, in the third Skype session I was having with Vicky, that she was feeling very sad.

“Vicky, what are you so sad about?”

“Since I’ve been learning Inner Bonding, I keep looking back and feeling so sad about . . . → Read More: Are You Addicted to the Past?

Do You Have The Courage to Be a Loving Parent?

Do you have the courage to risk loving yourself – even when you might encounter your children’s uncaring behavior?

Most of us really don’t like it when someone is angry with us. We don’t like it when someone goes into resistance to helping us when we need help, instead of caring about us. We . . . → Read More: Do You Have The Courage to Be a Loving Parent?

Does Your Partner Judge You In Front Of Others?

Do you get stuck not knowing what to say or do when your partner treats you disrespectfully?


Louise asked me:

“Do you have any suggestions on what to say when my husband says unloving words to me in front of others, including our children? I don’t want my kids to keep witnessing disrespectful behavior toward their mother. When I challenge his treatment of me, his anger escalates and the chastisement worsens. I am frequently embarrassed when I am scolded like this in front of others, but more importantly, I wish my children to understand that this is not ok. How can I model what to say to him so that my kids can learn how to take loving care of themselves in such situations?”

Continue reading Does Your Partner Judge You In Front Of Others?

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“I Keep Choosing The Wrong Partner”

Discover the way out of choosing the wrong relationships over and over.


Do you find yourself choosing a similar wrong partner over and over? This is what Laura asks about:

“How can I get past the point of choosing destructive and abusive relationships over and over just because I grew up in an abusive and dysfunctional family? Is it better to just remain single and grow with God and be a good mom and not gravitate toward craziness?”

Laura, there are a number of issues here that need to be addressed. Continue reading “I Keep Choosing The Wrong Partner”

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Why Do People Kill?

We need to resolve the violence in our society. I’m offering a few ideas regarding the issues we need to research and address.


Why? Why are these horrible killings happening?

I don’t pretend to know the answers, but I do have some ideas that I want to share with you. I believe there are many issues that we need to attend to as a society.

There is much talk about the need for more mental health facilities, but just as important is why so many people are mentally ill.

People who know how to love and value themselves also love and value others, and would never deliberately do harm to others. People capable of empathy could not do what Adam Lanza did. The question is: What created such a degree of internal disconnection from his own feelings and empathic ability, and what created the level of self-loathing that resulted in Adam Lanza killing 20 children and six adults? What creates such a deep inability to regulate feelings? Why did Adam Lanza never learn to manage his feelings in a way that didn’t hurt others? Continue reading Why Do People Kill?

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Finally! Studies Prove That Spanking Doesn’t Work

Do you hit your children? If you want to raise healthy children, reading this article is a must. . . . → Read More: Finally! Studies Prove That Spanking Doesn’t Work