If you are addicted to seeking others’ approval, this article is for you! Many years ago, I became aware of feeling anxious much of the time. Since this feeling had been with me as long as I could remember, it had seemed normal – until it stopped being okay with me. It stopped being okay...
Tag Archives: controlling behavior“I freak out when my husband even looks at another woman. I trust him not to wander, so I don’t know why this upsets me so much.””My partner spends too much time with her friends and family. What’s the point of being together if she’s always gone a couple of nights a week?” “My wife... My counseling clients often complain to me about interactions they had with a partner, friend, parents or co-worker. When I asked the question, “Why didn’t you speak up for yourself?” here are the most common answers I receive: “I want to keep the peace.” “I don’t want to rock the boat.” “I didn’t know what... “What’s the matter with you?” “How could you do that?” “Explain yourself, young lady/young man.” “Why are you dressed like that?” “Why are you late again?” “What did you do to your hair!” How often did you hear some variation of this when you were growing up? I heard it all the time. And what... Have you ever noticed how bad you feel when you try to control things you can’t control – such as others and outcomes? Larry consulted with me because he was often miserable – despite running a successful business, and having a lovely wife and two daughters, whom he adored. It soon became apparent that Larry... |
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