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Do you have problems having truly connected friendships? Friendship is a big topic. There are people who always seem to have many friends, and others who can’t seem to find the way to make friends. Some people have deeply connected friendships, and others have only superficial acquaintances. What accounts for these differences? A part . . . → Read More: Friendship: Connection or Neediness?  Comments are closed  Relationships  best friend, connection, friends, Friendship, I feel empty, Inner Bonding, love, making friends, Margaret Paul, neediness Have you wondered why you may be having a hard time connecting with others? “Intimacy begins with oneself. It does no good to try to find intimacy with friends, lovers, and family if you are starting out from alienation and division within yourself.” - Thomas Moore Do you try to create intimacy with your . . . → Read More: Intimacy With Others Starts From Within Comments are closed Relationships atheist, connection, emotional connection, heartbreak, Inner Bonding, intimacy, loneliness, love, loving yourself, Margaret Paul, Relationships, self-abandonment, spiritual guidance, spirituality We all deeply desire connection with others, but what is necessary for us to have this?
When we were born, the most important thing to us was connection with our mother. We needed connection with her body for adequate sustenance. We needed emotional connection with her, or with someone, to feel safe, and to develop the ability to regulate our feelings. Connection with someone was essential to our physical survival and our emotional well being.
When we are fortunate enough to have a healthy experience of connection with our parents, we grow up feeling loved, lovable and safe. But in order to have this healthy connection, our parents or other caregivers need to be connected with themselves. They cannot fully connect with us if they are disconnected from themselves. Continue reading Connection: Our Deepest Desire
      Are you addicted to porn and not feeling good about it? Discover the likely underlying cause and what to do about it.
I received the following question when I was conducting a webinar on sexual addiction:
“I have had a pornography addiction since I was a teenager. I am now in my mid 30′s. For the past four months I have abstained through Inner Child work, but two days ago I visited a porn site and masturbated. I feel really sad about this. What is the best way to address this?” Pornography addiction is quite common. At one of my Five-Day Couples’ Intensives, one of the men was working on his porn addiction and was feeling embarrassed about it. In an effort to help him, I asked, “How many of you are addicted to porn?” Among the six couples there, four of the men raised their hands. Continue reading Addicted to Porn? Comments are closed Addictions compassion, connection, emotional healing, grief, heartbreak, Inner Bonding, inner child, loneliness, Margaret Paul, porn, pornography Do you sometimes feel like you try to give your partner the connection he or she wants and can’t figure out how?
I was having a Skype session with Andrea and Lawrence. Married for 18 years with two teen-age children, their marriage was strained. When I asked Lawrence how things were going between them, his answer was the same as always: “Fine.” When I asked Andrea the same question, she got a pained look on her face. “Things are okay, but not great. I’m lonely with Lawrence so much of the time. We just can’t seem to connect.”
Lawrence became defensive. “I can never do things good enough or right enough for you. You are always unhappy about something.” Continue reading “I Don’t Know How To Give Her What She Wants From Me.” Are you mystified about how to create meaningful emotional connection with others? We are inherently social beings, and feeling emotionally connected with another is one of the great joys in life. Yet, all too often, we feel lonely around another or others, wanting to connect and not knowing how. We may have learned numerous . . . → Read More: How to Connect with Others Comments are closed Relationships, Self Improvement & Personal Growth connection, emotional connection, heartache, heartbreak, Inner Bonding, loneliness, Margaret Paul, Relationships |
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