When someone does something that scares or hurts you, do you lovingly manage your pain or do try to control them?
When I was a very young child, I quickly learned to jump out of myself whenever my mother was angry at me – which . . . → Read More: What Do You Do When Someone Hurts You?
The disturbing lack of a personal spiritual connection that many experience has huge ramifications for our planet.
How are we doing as inhabitants of this beautiful planet? Sometimes we need to take stock of ourselves – personally, nationally and globally. On a personal level, do the majority of us see life as a sacred . . . → Read More: Inner Disconnection = Planetary Disconnection
Do you have problems having truly connected friendships?
Friendship is a big topic. There are people who always seem to have many friends, and others who can’t seem to find the way to make friends. Some people have deeply connected friendships, and others have only superficial acquaintances. What accounts for these differences?
Have you wondered why you may be having a hard time connecting with others? “Intimacy begins with oneself. It does no good to try to find intimacy with friends, lovers, and family if you are starting out from alienation and division within yourself.” – Thomas Moore
We all deeply desire connection with others, but what is necessary for us to have this?
When we were born, the most important thing to us was connection with our mother. We needed connection with her body for adequate sustenance. We needed emotional connection with her, or with someone, to feel safe, and to develop the ability to regulate our feelings. Connection with someone was essential to our physical survival and our emotional well being.
When we are fortunate enough to have a healthy experience of connection with our parents, we grow up feeling loved, lovable and safe. But in order to have this healthy connection, our parents or other caregivers need to be connected with themselves. They cannot fully connect with us if they are disconnected from themselves.Continue reading Connection: Our Deepest Desire