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Do you often wonder when you will ‘get there?’ Watching this 1 minute movie, “You Are ‘There’ When You Care,” will remind you that, at any moment you chose to care, you’ve arrived. Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process . . . → Read More: Inspirational Video: You Are ‘There’ When You Care  Comments are closed  Self Improvement & Personal Growth, Spiritual Growth  compassion, forgiveness, getting there, Inner Bonding, kindness, love, loving yourself, Margaret Paul, The Dalai Lama A client of mine asked, “Is there such a thing as healthy caretaking?” Here is the answer! I was trained by my mother and grandmother to be a caretaker. The messages were: “Your feelings are not important to us at all. You need to learn to completely ignore your own feelings and instead take care of our feelings. In return for this, we will occasionally give you some approval for being a good girl.” I learned my lessons well. I learned to stay in my head rather than my heart and soul so that I wouldn’t be aware of my own feelings. I learned to be very vigilant regarding others’ feelings and to do all I could to be what they wanted me to be. I completely lost touch with myself. Continue reading Is There Such A Thing As Healthy Caretaking?       Comments are closed Relationships caregiving, caretaking, caring, controlling behavior, health, Inner Bonding, loving yourself, manipulation, Margaret Paul, self-abandonment, self-care Were you taught that if you were nice others would be nice? “I had this really terrible interaction on the phone with a customer on Tuesday,” Carlton told me in our Skype session. “This guy was so closed and controlling. He just kept yelling about what he wanted me to do. I was being really nice, but it didn’t seem to make any difference. The conversation went on for an hour and we didn’t get anywhere. He just kept acting crazy. I ended up exhausted and drained. Why do people have to be like that?” Carlton is a really ‘nice guy.’ The problem is he believes that his niceness is a way to control getting closed people to open. This was not the first time I’d heard about someone acting ‘crazy’ with Carlton. He had just ended a relationship with a woman who did the same thing. Continue reading Does Niceness Get A Closed Person Open? Comments are closed Relationships controlling behavior, controlling with niceness, Inner Bonding, loving yourself, Margaret Paul, nice guy, self-abandonment, self-care, self-love Are you putting ‘pink slime’ in your body without knowing it? ABC news did a story about ‘pink slime’—an additive that is in 70% of the meat in super markets. After an ABC News investigation detailing the use of a cheap meat filler, finely textured lean beef, commonly called pink slime, which is in 70 percent of the ground beef sold at supermarkets, J. Patrick Boyle, president of the American Meat Institute, defended the practice as a way to safely use what otherwise would be wasted. “BLBT (Boneless Lean Beef Trimmings) is a sustainable product because it recovers lean meat that would otherwise be wasted,” he said in a statement. However, the substance, critics said, is more like gelatin than meat, and before Beef Products Inc. found a way to use it by disinfecting the trimmings with ammonia it was sold only to dog food or cooking oil suppliers. Continue reading Are You Eating Pink Slime?   You have more of an effect on the world than you know! “Let everyone sweep in front of his own door, and the whole world will be clean.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe What would happen if we each learned to take 100% responsibility for our own feelings and needs – learning to attend to our feelings with compassion for ourselves, and extending that compassion to others? What would happen if each of us were conscious enough to sweep in front of our own door – which means we would be conscious enough not to dump our filth on the rest of the world? I love to imagine the possibilities! Continue reading Your Own Inner Work Affects the Whole World! Frequently, when I start to work with a new client, they believe that loving their self is selfish. Nothing could be further from the truth. A more accurate definition of selfish is expecting others to give themselves up and do for you what you can and need to be doing for yourself. Letting Others Off The Hook How are others let off the hook when you love yourself? Let us count the ways! • Others don’t need to read your mind when you are meeting many of your own needs, and asking outright when there is something you need help with. • Others don’t need to hold back, be careful, or walk on eggshells when you are taking care of your own feelings. Continue reading When You Love Yourself, You Let Others Off the Hook |
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