Inspirational Video – The Beauty of Our True Self

In this 1 minute inspirational, receive an experience of who you truly are.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process – featured on Oprah. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Click here for a . . . → Read More: Inspirational Video – The Beauty of Our True Self

Americans: More Self-Centered… and More Lonely

On April 1, 2011, Matt Cantor, Newser Staff, posted “As Americans Get More Self-Centered, So Do Lyrics Study finds increasingly narcissistic words in top 10 hits.”

Today’s hit songs aren’t about “us”-they’re just about “me,” a study finds. Researchers examined Billboard’s top 10 songs in the US each year from 1980 to 2007, and . . . → Read More: Americans: More Self-Centered… and More Lonely

Trying to Control Makes us Miserable

Have you ever noticed how bad you feel when you try to control things you can’t control – such as others and outcomes?

Larry consulted with me because he was often miserable – despite running a successful business, and having a lovely wife and two daughters, whom he adored.

It soon became apparent that Larry was deeply addicted to controlling everything – his own feelings, how others felt about him, how well his employees performed, what his wife did for him, how well his children did in school, and whether or not anyone ever took advantage of him. His primary intent in life was to be in control and not be controlled. Continue reading Trying to Control Makes us Miserable


Nothing Has Meaning Without Love and Connection

Gretchen is typical of many of the clients that I work with. In our first session she said: 

I’ve been depressed on and off throughout my life. Medication helped for a while, but now all it does is make me feel more flat and empty. Life seems to have no meaning for me. Nothing looks beautiful. Nothing is compelling to me. I can’t think of anything I really want to do. I’ve tried many forms of therapy but nothing has worked to heal my depression. I don’t know why I’m here on this planet. What is it all about?

Most therapies do not deal with the underlying cause of anxiety and depression. Lila, a member of the Inner Bonding® website, shared this about her healing process:

I must’ve gone through dozens of therapists since my first one at 17. Continue reading Nothing Has Meaning Without Love and Connection


Inspirational Video – The Sweetness of Risk

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Relationships: Do You Have the Same Conflicts Over and Over?

Kari and Rudy consulted with me because they kept having conflicts over the same issues over and over – primarily money, chores, and child-rearing. They were nearing the decision to separate, believing that they were incompatible.

I asked them to pick one of the issues and they picked a recent conflict regarding setting limits for their children. I asked them to discuss the issue and I immediately understood why they could not resolve their issues.

I explained to them that there are always two levels of communication:

  • The issue itself, such as their conflict regarding limits for their children;
  • The intent with which they were discussing the issue.

There are only two possible intents in discussing an issue with your partner: Continue reading Relationships: Do You Have the Same Conflicts Over and Over?