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My counseling clients often complain to me about interactions they had with a partner, friend, parents or co-worker. When I asked the question, “Why didn’t you speak up for yourself?” here are the most common answers I receive: “I want to keep the peace.”       What do you usually do when you get stuck with someone and can’t communicate? Do you:
What happens within you and with your relationship when you do any of these things? Continue reading What to do When You Can’t Communicate “I can’t seem to stop snacking,” said Linda, in our phone session. “And I can’t figure out why. I don’t overeat during meals, but then I snack on things that I don’t need to be eating. I’ve had this issue on and off since adolescence and I want to resolve it.” “Linda, right now, take yourself back to the last time you snacked. See if you can tune into what was going on and what you were feeling.” “It happened a lot this last weekend. I had some work I needed to get done I didn’t want to do it. Snacking is a way of putting it off for a bit.” Continue reading “I Feel Trapped”  Comments are closed  Self Improvement & Personal Growth  feeling trapped, food addiction, Inner Bonding, intent to learn, love, Margaret Paul, procrastination, resistance, wounded self This 1 minute inspirational video can remind you of the opportunities to learn that are inherent in all conflict. Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process – featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. . . . → Read More: The Color of Conflict Comments are closed Self Improvement & Personal Growth conflict, conflict resolution, Inner Bonding, intent to learn, Margaret Paul Have you ever hear yourself say, or said to yourself, “No one appreciates me.” I used to say this to myself all the time. I was constantly giving myself up to please others, and then ended up feeling completely unappreciated and resentful – until I learned how to take loving care of myself and appreciate myself. I encountered this recently with Jayden, a young man who consulted with me after his girlfriend left him and he got fired from his job as a construction worker. An alcoholic who had stopped drinking last year, he was back to drinking. “I gave so much to my girlfriend and worked so hard at the job. I don’t understand this. No one ever appreciates me,” he said with a resentful whine in his voice. Jayden was obviously feeling like a victim of his girlfriend and his boss. Continue reading “No One Appreciates Me” A member of our website asked this question in our advice section:
I know exactly what this woman is going through, as I used to go through the same thing. When a man I felt connected to would withdraw, shut down, or pull away in any way, I would feel a sense of panic. In my panic, I would convince myself that by being a certain way – attractive enough, sexy enough, nice enough, right enough, or convincing enough – I could get him to reconnect with me. Continue reading Do You Chase When Someone Withdraws? |
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