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By Dr. Margaret Paul March 04, 2019 Discover how self-abandonment can lead to using and objectifying others sexually. Nicholas consulted with me because of problems he was having in his marriage. He was very distressed that his wife, Kayla, never wanted to have sex with him. In the course of our work, it . . . → Read More: Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction Are you using the past to avoid feeling some current painful feelings? I could see immediately, in the third Skype session I was having with Vicky, that she was feeling very sad. “Vicky, what are you so sad about?” “Since I’ve been learning Inner Bonding, I keep looking back and feeling so sad about . . . → Read More: Are You Addicted to the Past? Do you get addictively stuck on the Internet and can’t seem to find your way out?
Our society provides many ways we can avoid our feelings addictively. Many people today are addicted to being on the Internet as one way of avoiding feeling an underlying pain that they believe they cannot manage feeling. Continue reading Are You Addicted to the Internet?
       Comments are closed  Addictions  Addictions, aloneness, emotional healing, emptiness, false beliefs, guilt, I feel empty, Inner Bonding, Internet addiction, Margaret Paul, painful feelings, self-abandonment, self-judgment Our culture seems to promote love addiction to such an extent that it seems like a healthy way to relate. While it is very common, it is anything but healthy. Because it is so prevalent, many people don’t realize they are love addicted. Henry asks: “Is love addiction like when I see a friendly . . . → Read More: What Does It Mean To Be Love Addicted? Are you focusing on getting your partner to change to avoid a painful choice that you might need to make? If you find yourself often focused on healing others or hoping you can get others to change, it is likely that you don’t think of this as an addiction. I define an addiction . . . → Read More: Addiction to Getting Others To Change Discover when getting things done is healthy, and when it is unhealthy and obsessive.
There are many addictive ways that most of us have learned to avoid our painful feelings, and focusing on getting things done is often one of these ways.
It’s not that there is anything wrong with getting things done. Most of us have a lot that we need to do and we may feel stressed when we don’t get done what we need to do. It is certainly not addictive to make lists and be self-disciplined enough to follow through on our lists. Whether or not it is addictive depends on your intent. If your intent is to be a responsible self-disciplined adult, then getting things done is healthy, loving action toward yourself. But when your intent is to use your list and obsessively getting things done as a way to avoid responsibility for your feelings, then it becomes addictive. Continue reading Addiction To Getting Things Done |
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