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Are you ready to discover the way to happiness? Are you ready to discover what Epictetus knew over 2000 years ago? “There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.” ~Epictetus, AD 55-135 It’s hard for me to imagine that . . . → Read More: The Way to Happiness  Comments are closed  Self Improvement & Personal Growth  anger, blame, controlling behavior, Epictetus, grief, happiness, heartbreak, helplessness, Inner Bonding, loneliness, Margaret Paul, personal development, personal power, Self Help Are you focusing on getting your partner to change to avoid a painful choice that you might need to make? If you find yourself often focused on healing others or hoping you can get others to change, it is likely that you don’t think of this as an addiction. I define an addiction . . . → Read More: Addiction to Getting Others To Change “The art of living lies not in eliminating but in growing with troubles.” ~ Bernard M. Baruch “How can I get this pain to go away?” This is often what clients who seek my help ask me in a first session. Because they have never learned to manage and learn from their pain, they want to avoid it, eliminate it – find a way to hide from it. The problem is that they have been unsuccessfully hiding from their pain for years by abandoning themselves – by staying focused in their head rather than their body, hoping that if they avoid feeling their feelings, the feelings will go away. They have been judging their feelings and turning to various addictions for the same reason. When trouble comes, which it inevitably does, they intensify their avoidance of their feelings. Continue reading Are You Hiding?       Comments are closed Relationships anger, anxiety, compassion, Depression, grief, guilt, heartbreak, Hiding feelings, Inner Bonding, loneliness, Margaret Paul, self-abandonment, shame, spirit, spiritual guidance, troubles Discover what a boundary is and what it isn’t. Merilee wrote the following question to me in one of my relationship webinars:
“Hi Dr. Paul — One of my biggest struggles is being open to giving and receiving love, but also setting boundaries. I want to be loving, not controlling, but I don’t want people to say or treat me in ways that I don’t like. How to reconcile?” Merilee, of course you don’t want people to treat you in ways that you don’t like. Who would want that? It’s painful when people treat us in unloving ways. However, the real issue is to come to terms with what you can and can’t control. I get the feeling from your question that, while you don’t want to be controlling, you believe that setting boundaries gives you control over whether or not others treat you in ways you don’t like. Continue reading The Art of Setting Boundaries We cannot shut down our pain without also shutting down our love and joy. Watching this 1 minute movie, “The Gift of Tears,” will inspire you to keep your heart open to all feelings. Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® . . . → Read More: Inspirational Video: The Gift of Tears Comments are closed Self Improvement & Personal Growth, Spiritual Growth ability to love, crying, desert fathers, emotions, gift of tears, heartbreak, Inner Bonding, joy, love, Margaret Paul, open heart, open to God, strength in tears, tears Are you addicted to porn and not feeling good about it? Discover the likely underlying cause and what to do about it.
I received the following question when I was conducting a webinar on sexual addiction:
“I have had a pornography addiction since I was a teenager. I am now in my mid 30’s. For the past four months I have abstained through Inner Child work, but two days ago I visited a porn site and masturbated. I feel really sad about this. What is the best way to address this?” Pornography addiction is quite common. At one of my Five-Day Couples’ Intensives, one of the men was working on his porn addiction and was feeling embarrassed about it. In an effort to help him, I asked, “How many of you are addicted to porn?” Among the six couples there, four of the men raised their hands. Continue reading Addicted to Porn? Comments are closed Addictions compassion, connection, emotional healing, grief, heartbreak, Inner Bonding, inner child, loneliness, Margaret Paul, porn, pornography |
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