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Discover why any kind of engaging when someone is angry is a waste of energy. “Rage can…shut off the hippocampus [linked to memory], and people with out-of-control anger may not be lying when they say they don’t recall what they said or did in that altered state of mind.” Mindsight, P.155 Daniel Siegel, M.D. Have . . . → Read More: Do You Remember What You Say When You are Enraged?  Comments are closed  Self Improvement & Personal Growth  anger, blame, communication, conflict resolution, enraged, grief, heartbreak, helplessness, Inner Bonding, loneliness, Margaret Paul, rage, relationship advice, Relationships Are you ready to discover the way to happiness? Are you ready to discover what Epictetus knew over 2000 years ago? “There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.” ~Epictetus, AD 55-135 It’s hard for me to imagine that . . . → Read More: The Way to Happiness Comments are closed Self Improvement & Personal Growth anger, blame, controlling behavior, Epictetus, grief, happiness, heartbreak, helplessness, Inner Bonding, loneliness, Margaret Paul, personal development, personal power, Self Help “The art of living lies not in eliminating but in growing with troubles.” ~ Bernard M. Baruch “How can I get this pain to go away?” This is often what clients who seek my help ask me in a first session. Because they have never learned to manage and learn from their pain, they want to avoid it, eliminate it – find a way to hide from it. The problem is that they have been unsuccessfully hiding from their pain for years by abandoning themselves – by staying focused in their head rather than their body, hoping that if they avoid feeling their feelings, the feelings will go away. They have been judging their feelings and turning to various addictions for the same reason. When trouble comes, which it inevitably does, they intensify their avoidance of their feelings. Continue reading Are You Hiding?       Comments are closed Relationships anger, anxiety, compassion, Depression, grief, guilt, heartbreak, Hiding feelings, Inner Bonding, loneliness, Margaret Paul, self-abandonment, shame, spirit, spiritual guidance, troubles Are you addicted to porn and not feeling good about it? Discover the likely underlying cause and what to do about it.
I received the following question when I was conducting a webinar on sexual addiction:
“I have had a pornography addiction since I was a teenager. I am now in my mid 30’s. For the past four months I have abstained through Inner Child work, but two days ago I visited a porn site and masturbated. I feel really sad about this. What is the best way to address this?” Pornography addiction is quite common. At one of my Five-Day Couples’ Intensives, one of the men was working on his porn addiction and was feeling embarrassed about it. In an effort to help him, I asked, “How many of you are addicted to porn?” Among the six couples there, four of the men raised their hands. Continue reading Addicted to Porn? Comments are closed Addictions compassion, connection, emotional healing, grief, heartbreak, Inner Bonding, inner child, loneliness, Margaret Paul, porn, pornography A recent study indicates that crying does not make people feel better. But there is a problem with this study. (Crying shame: Tears don’t make you feel any better, study shows, By Cari Nierenberg, http://bodyodd.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2011/07/29/7190543-crying-shame-tears-dont-make-you-feel-any-better-study-shows#.TjR9l8uTx0A.email). The study indicates that:
The problem is that they do not differentiate between crying as a victim and crying to release the authentic pain of grief, loneliness and heartbreak. They do not differentiate between victim tears and authentic tears that release core painful feelings. It is likely that the one-third who benefited from crying were those who were releasing authentic pain. Continue reading Does Crying Make you Feel Better? Comments are closed Self Improvement & Personal Growth authentic pain, authentic tears, compassion, crying, grief, heartbreak, Inner Bonding, Margaret Paul, shedding tears, victim pain, victim tears |
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