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By Dr. Margaret Paul July 20, 2020
“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.” –Margaret Mead, 1901-1978, Anthropologist, Writer and Speaker Do you have any idea how . . . → Read More: You Can Change The World  Comments are closed  Relationships  anger, anxiety, Depression, guilt, Inner Bonding, inner peace, intent to control, intent to learn, joy, love, Margaret Paul, passion and purpose, shame, world peace Do you get addictively stuck on the Internet and can’t seem to find your way out?
Our society provides many ways we can avoid our feelings addictively. Many people today are addicted to being on the Internet as one way of avoiding feeling an underlying pain that they believe they cannot manage feeling. Continue reading Are You Addicted to the Internet?
      Comments are closed Addictions Addictions, aloneness, emotional healing, emptiness, false beliefs, guilt, I feel empty, Inner Bonding, Internet addiction, Margaret Paul, painful feelings, self-abandonment, self-judgment “The art of living lies not in eliminating but in growing with troubles.” ~ Bernard M. Baruch “How can I get this pain to go away?” This is often what clients who seek my help ask me in a first session. Because they have never learned to manage and learn from their pain, they want to avoid it, eliminate it – find a way to hide from it. The problem is that they have been unsuccessfully hiding from their pain for years by abandoning themselves – by staying focused in their head rather than their body, hoping that if they avoid feeling their feelings, the feelings will go away. They have been judging their feelings and turning to various addictions for the same reason. When trouble comes, which it inevitably does, they intensify their avoidance of their feelings. Continue reading Are You Hiding? Comments are closed Relationships anger, anxiety, compassion, Depression, grief, guilt, heartbreak, Hiding feelings, Inner Bonding, loneliness, Margaret Paul, self-abandonment, shame, spirit, spiritual guidance, troubles Do you believe that feelings of abandonment are coming from others abandoning you – or do they come from self-abandonment?
When we think about abandonment, we generally think about being left by someone. But abandonment is about leaving someone we are responsible for – a child or an old or sick person who cannot take care of themselves and whom we have agreed to take care of.
As a healthy adult, another adult can leave you, but they cannot abandon you, since they likely have not agreed to be responsible for you. It might seem strange to you, but, as a healthy adult, when you feel abandoned by someone, it is not actually about them. It is about having abandoned yourself. Most people don’t think about how they abandon themselves because they don’t recognize that they are responsible for themselves – physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, relationally and organizationally. Continue reading Are You Abandoning Yourself? I have learned over my 43 years of counseling that no one heals without a personal connection to a spiritual source of Guidance. “William,” I asked, “what is your concept of God or a Higher Power?” “Oh, you know, the traditional Judeo/Christian concept – an old dude up in the sky dishing out judgments.” Continue reading The Law of Love Comments are closed Spiritual Growth defining yourself, Depression, ego, God, guilt, Higher Self, Inner Bonding, inner peace, law of love, love, Margaret Paul, shame, spiritual guidance, truth, wounded self |
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