Are You Living Your Life or Just Getting It Over With?

Do you often try to get a task over with, or even get life over with? Do you have problems staying in the moment and enjoying the process of something, rather than just completing a task?


How often do you find yourself wanting to finish something or to get something over with, rather than being in the moment with whatever is happening? How often does accomplishing the goal seem more important than being in the process? Why is it often more important to complete something than to savor the process, moment by moment?

My client Jacob always has a list of what he needs to do and he feels safe and worthy when he can check things off his list. His list keeps him busy with the next task and the next, leaving him no time to be present in the moment. When I ask Jacob, during a phone session, to go inside and feel what he is feeling in the moment, he tells me that it doesn’t feel very good to be inside his body. He doesn’t like to be present because he is often in emotional pain. Continue reading Are You Living Your Life or Just Getting It Over With?

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“I’m Not Important Enough To Want To Love Myself”

When you were growing up, did you feel important to your parents? Did they attend to you in loving ways to show you how important you were to them? Or, did you often feel like a bother or a burden to them?

Did either of your parents or caregivers role-model loving themselves? Did . . . → Read More: “I’m Not Important Enough To Want To Love Myself”

Are You Selling Your Soul?

You might not think you are selling your soul, but is this true?


What have you given up for money and possessions?

  • Have you given up kindness to get ahead?

  • Have you given up family time for a bigger TV?

  • Have you given up fun for a new car?

  • Have you given up hobbies for a promotion?

  • Have you given up vacations for prestige?

  • Have you given up helping others for a bigger house or a new car or a boat?

  • Have you given up leisure time for more money?

  • Have you given up yourself to get approval?

  • Have you given up your creativity for the bottom line? Continue reading Are You Selling Your Soul?

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Do You Experience Life As A Burden Or As A Sacred Privilege?

Learn how to embrace life as the sacred privilege it is rather than be stuck just getting through.


Peter experiences life as a burden – a sentence to get through that is filled with suffering. Peter trudges through his life, experiencing little joy. He works hard, makes enough money to feel financially secure enough to take care of his family, and spends little time in connection with others. To Peter, life has no real purpose other than to make money and do the best he can to feel safe.

Peter has no connection with anything greater than himself. He does not believe in God, Spirit or a Higher Power. He believes that when he dies, he disappears forever. He has no perspective of anything beyond this life. Life, therefore, has little meaning to Peter. Continue reading Do You Experience Life As A Burden Or As A Sacred Privilege?

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Anger And Other Forms of Control

If you grew up in a family where one or both parents used anger to control you, then anger likely plays a role in your life now.

Did you grow up with anger in your household? Did one or both of your parents use anger as a way to keep you in line . . . → Read More: Anger And Other Forms of Control

The Gifts Within Anxiety and Depression

Anxiety and depression hold within them much important information.


When you feel anxious or depressed, do you try to get rid of these feelings, or do you learn from them?

Getting rid of anxiety and depression is big business – especially for the pharmaceutical companies. Drug sales for anti-anxiety meds and antidepressants are huge. This is very sad to me, because, while there are circumstances where these meds are medically called for, much of the time they are prescribed in an effort to simply get rid of our painful feelings. The problem with this is that it leaves us without the roadmap we need to navigate life in a loving, meaningful and joyful way.

Anxiety and depression have major information for us. Let’s compare these feelings to the pain you would feel if you grabbed a hot pan with your bare hand or cut your finger slicing your veggies. Continue reading The Gifts Within Anxiety and Depression

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