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By Dr. Margaret Paul August 24, 2020 What do you do when a person or situation triggers your stress response? Most of us have at one time or another been ‘triggered.’ A trigger is an event, situation or interaction with a person or group of people that activates the fight, flight or freeze stress . . . → Read More: Triggers: Acting Out or Acting In If you grew up in a family where one or both parents used anger to control you, then anger likely plays a role in your life now. Did you grow up with anger in your household? Did one or both of your parents use anger as a way to keep you in line . . . → Read More: Anger And Other Forms of Control Discover the major cause of relationship failure and what to do about it. Most people, when asked if they want a loving relationship, will say that having a loving relationship is one of the two most important things to them – along with having work they love. Why, then, do so many relationships fail? If we want to go deeply into why relationships fail, we need to go all the way back to the parental relationship. Continue reading Why Relationships Fail       How often have you had the thought, “If you really loved me, you wouldn’t…
I used to have this thought all the time. If someone yelled, blamed me, shut me out, didn’t see me accurately, or went into resistance, I would think, “You don’t care about me. If you cared about me, you wouldn’t treat me this way. How can you say you care about me and then treat me this way?” Sometimes I would even say this out loud. And always I would feel deep loneliness and heartache at being treated this way. Then one day I suddenly saw all this uncaring behavior in a completely different light. Continue reading “If You Really Loved Me, You Wouldn’t…”  Comments are closed  Relationships, Self Improvement & Personal Growth  anger, blame, compassion, grace, Inner Bonding, inner peace, Margaret Paul, resistance, taking things personally, withdrawal, wounded self You and your partner might be hurting each other without realizing how and why you are doing this. Are you aware of how you may be hurting your partner? Are you aware of how your partner may be hurting you? Are you aware of the painful feelings of loneliness, heartache and heartbreak you likely feel when you are disconnected from your loved one and unable to share love? The sharing of love is the most wonderful experience in life. You connect and share love when you are open hearted with your partner – kind, caring, gentle, tender, understanding, and compassionate. You connect and share love when you are open to learning – listening well and caring about your own and your partner’s feelings, even if your partner is upset about how you might have hurt him or her. Do you care about hurting your partner? Does your partner care about hurting you? Continue reading Are You and Your Partner Hurting Each Other? Comments are closed Relationships anger, emotional connection, emotional disconnection, heartache, heartbreak, Inner Bonding, loneliness, love, Margaret Paul, relationship advice, Relationships, withdrawal We hear so often, “Don’t take it personally.” What does this really mean? The answer is NOT simple! Let’s say that you are in a great mood, feeling loving and expansive, and someone – either someone close to you or a stranger like a clerk in a store – is withdrawn or attacking. Continue reading When Should You Take It Personally? |
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