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Are you shy? Is your shyness getting in the way of your connection with others? Have you struggled with being a shy person? Lily asks: “I try hard to overcome my shyness and reluctance to stand out, speak up and shine. It’s a daily struggle for me. I make small progress, but can . . . → Read More: Shyness  Comments are closed  Relationships  Elaine Aron, extravert, Inner Bonding, introversion, introvert, loving adult, Margaret Paul, personal power, shyness, spiritual guidance, Susan Cain Discover the cause of inner emptiness and what you need to do to feel full inside. For many people, inner emptiness is a big problem. They believe that they can fill their emptiness from the outside, which is a false belief. The cause of inner emptiness is a lack of a loving connection with your inner child – your essence, your true Self, your Being, which then results in an inability to share love with others.http://www.innerbonding.com/show-page/224/love-yourself-a-30-day-inner-bonding-experience.htmlLoving yourself and sharing your love with others is what creates fullness. When you stay focused in your head, rather than being in your body with your feelings, and when you turn to various addictions such as substance, process, self-judgment, and love addiction, you are abandoning your feelings – abandoning your inner child – which creates emptiness. You might then turn to the very same self-abandoning actions in an attempt to avoid your emptiness – a vicious circle. Continue reading Filling Up Emptiness From The Inside       Is there something you’ve always wanted to do but have never done? What’s stopping you? “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” –Chinese Proverb How often do you say to yourself, “I wish I had…..?” “I wish I had gone to college or finished . . . → Read More: What Are You Waiting For? Discover the way out of choosing the wrong relationships over and over. Do you find yourself choosing a similar wrong partner over and over? This is what Laura asks about: “How can I get past the point of choosing destructive and abusive relationships over and over just because I grew up in an abusive and dysfunctional family? Is it better to just remain single and grow with God and be a good mom and not gravitate toward craziness?” Laura, there are a number of issues here that need to be addressed. Continue reading “I Keep Choosing The Wrong Partner” Comments are closed Relationships, Self Improvement & Personal Growth abusive parenting, abusive relationships, choosing the wrong relationship, Inner Bonding, loving relationships, loving yourself, Margaret Paul, Parenting, Relationships, self-abandonment, spiritual connection, spiritual guidance, spirituality Have you wondered why you may be having a hard time connecting with others? “Intimacy begins with oneself. It does no good to try to find intimacy with friends, lovers, and family if you are starting out from alienation and division within yourself.” – Thomas Moore Do you try to create intimacy with your . . . → Read More: Intimacy With Others Starts From Within Comments are closed Relationships atheist, connection, emotional connection, heartbreak, Inner Bonding, intimacy, loneliness, love, loving yourself, Margaret Paul, Relationships, self-abandonment, spiritual guidance, spirituality What’s really happening when someone blames and shames you? If you stopped taking it personally, what would you be feeling?
What do you generally do when someone blames you for his or her feelings? Do you find yourself taking it personally and blaming yourself? This is what Melinda struggles with:
“How do I take loving care of myself when my partner is acting out with jealousy that he is not acknowledging? I feel blamed and shamed. It somehow feels like there’s something wrong with me, or something I’m doing even though there isn’t. What do I do with the shame? How do I love myself through it? His reaction can last a few hours or even a few days.” Melinda, your partner’s blaming and shaming of you are his ways of avoiding responsibility for his own feelings. But the real question is, why are you taking on the blame and shame? Why are you taking his behavior personally? Continue reading “Why Do I Feel Shame When I’m Being Blamed?” |
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