Does Crying Make you Feel Better?

By Margaret, on October 4th, 2011

A recent study indicates that crying does not make people feel better. But there is a problem with this study.

(Crying shame: Tears don’t make you feel any better, study shows, By Cari Nierenberg, http://bodyodd.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2011/07/29/7190543-crying-shame-tears-dont-make-you-feel-any-better-study-shows#.TjR9l8uTx0A.email).

The study indicates that:

“Shedding tears only improved mood in one-third of criers who kept tabs of their bawling behaviors, finds recent research.”

The problem is that they do not differentiate between crying as a victim and crying to release the authentic pain of grief, loneliness and heartbreak. They do not differentiate between victim tears and authentic tears that release core painful feelings. It is likely that the one-third who benefited from crying were those who were releasing authentic pain. Continue reading Does Crying Make you Feel Better?

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The Challenge of Accepting Our Helplessness Over Others

By Margaret, on September 26th, 2011

What do you do when you feel helpless over another’s choices? What is the result? Are you happy with how you manage this feeling?

Helplessness is a very difficult feeling. It can even feel like life or death to those of us who were left to cry for hours as babies, with no one coming to help us. Because we were so helpless over ourselves as babies and small children, it can trigger feelings of panic. It’s hard to remember, in these moments when fear is triggered, that as adults, we are not helpless over ourselves.

For many of us, the deep fear that got programmed into us as young children can trigger our wounded self’s desire to control, when we feel helpless over another’s choices.

What do you do when you feel helpless over another? Continue reading The Challenge of Accepting Our Helplessness Over Others

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Inspirational Video – You Are a Sacred Guardian

By Margaret, on September 19th, 2011

Do you sometimes wonder why you are here? This 1 minute video will remind you!

 

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process – featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are . . . → Read More: Inspirational Video – You Are a Sacred Guardian

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Life: Security or a Daring Adventure?

By Margaret, on September 19th, 2011

“Security is mostly superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.”  ~ Helen Keller

What do you do to foster the illusion of security? How do you convince yourself that you can have control over feeling safe and secure? What false beliefs are you operating from that perpetuate the illusion of safety and security? Continue reading Life: Security or a Daring Adventure?

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A Problem with Today’s Parenting

By Margaret, on September 12th, 2011

Many parents try to be far better parents than their parents were, yet their children grow up feeling lost and empty. Discover why in this article.

There was an interesting article in The Atlantic, entitled “How to Land Your Kid in Therapy: Why the obsession with our kids’ happiness may be dooming them to unhappy adulthoods. A therapist and mother reports.”

http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2011/07/how-to-land-your-kid-in-therapy/8555/

Feeling lost

The article is about the way many parents focus much of their energy on being there for their children, but their children end up feeling lost and empty. Continue reading A Problem with Today’s Parenting

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Don’t Wait!

By Margaret, on September 3rd, 2011

Do you wait for others to reach out first? Watching this 1 minute movie will  remind you not to wait!

 

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process – featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer . . . → Read More: Don’t Wait!

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