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Are you afraid to open your heart to love, for fear of getting hurt? Learn how to lovingly manage the hurt. Is it possible to fully love without getting hurt? The answer is unequivocally NO! Is this because love hurts? Again, the answer is NO! It is not love that hurts. It’s loss of . . . → Read More: “I Want To Open But I’m Scared of Getting Hurt.” Discover why you may be sabotaging and punishing yourself with your self-judgment and self-rejection. Would you love to manifest your dreams and have the life you want? Most people would unhesitatingly respond with a resounding “YES!” Yet, do you sometimes find yourself sabotaging yourself in achieving this? Georgette finds herself in this position and . . . → Read More: “How Do I Stop Sabotaging Myself?” Are you ready to discover the way to happiness? Are you ready to discover what Epictetus knew over 2000 years ago? “There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.” ~Epictetus, AD 55-135 It’s hard for me to imagine that . . . → Read More: The Way to Happiness  Comments are closed  Self Improvement & Personal Growth  anger, blame, controlling behavior, Epictetus, grief, happiness, heartbreak, helplessness, Inner Bonding, loneliness, Margaret Paul, personal development, personal power, Self Help Are you focusing on getting your partner to change to avoid a painful choice that you might need to make? If you find yourself often focused on healing others or hoping you can get others to change, it is likely that you don’t think of this as an addiction. I define an addiction . . . → Read More: Addiction to Getting Others To Change “The art of living lies not in eliminating but in growing with troubles.” ~ Bernard M. Baruch “How can I get this pain to go away?” This is often what clients who seek my help ask me in a first session. Because they have never learned to manage and learn from their pain, they want to avoid it, eliminate it – find a way to hide from it. The problem is that they have been unsuccessfully hiding from their pain for years by abandoning themselves – by staying focused in their head rather than their body, hoping that if they avoid feeling their feelings, the feelings will go away. They have been judging their feelings and turning to various addictions for the same reason. When trouble comes, which it inevitably does, they intensify their avoidance of their feelings. Continue reading Are You Hiding?       Comments are closed Relationships anger, anxiety, compassion, Depression, grief, guilt, heartbreak, Hiding feelings, Inner Bonding, loneliness, Margaret Paul, self-abandonment, shame, spirit, spiritual guidance, troubles Do you often crave solitude, or is being alone too lonely for you? There is an inherent reason for these differences.
“Language has created the word ‘loneliness’ to express the pain of being alone, and the word ‘solitude’ to express the glory of being alone.” –Benjamin Tillett
I find this quote very interesting in the light of recent research on introversion and extroversion. The research indicates that introversion and extroversion are inborn qualities that stay with us our whole lives. About 20 percent of the population are introverts, which means that their nervous system is very different than that of extroverts. The nervous system of introverts is much more sensitive to stimulation and gets overloaded much more easily than that of extroverts. It is likely that introverts, looking at the above quote, might say, “Well, I’m not sure about the pain of being alone, but I certainly understand the glory of it.” Continue reading Loneliness versus Solitude |
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