Do you have the expectation that you will receive unconditional love from a partner?
Most of us would love the experience of being loved unconditionally by someone. This is the experience we needed when we were growing up, but most parents are not connected enough with themselves and their spiritual guidance to be able . . . → Read More: Is Unconditional Love Realistic?
Wayne Dyer offers us a simple yet profound definition of enlightenment – simple, but not easy.
“If I could define enlightenment briefly I would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer
As simple as this definition seems to be, how often do you quietly accept what is? Instead, what do you say or do?
- I say things like “It’s not supposed to be this way.” “It should have been different.” “It should be this other way.”
- Instead of accepting how people are, I try various ways of trying to control them to get them to change and be the way I want them to be, or the way I think they should be. I explain, defend, complain, argue, blame, get angry, threaten, pout, give myself up, be extra loving and so on, rather than accept how they are.
- I tell myself lies regarding who someone is choosing to be. I say things like, “Underneath, he has a good heart,” rather than accept that the person is choosing to be abusive, or “I know she loves me,” rather than accept her lack of connection and attraction to me. I act as if my fantasy of someone is the reality, rather than accept the reality.
- I tell myself it’s my fault when others are unloving, rather than accept their choice to be unloving. I blame and shame myself, rather than accept who someone is choosing to be. I convince myself that if only I do things ‘right,’ or say things ‘right,’ I can get someone to change. Continue reading What is Enlightenment?