When you feel lonely with your partner or someone else, are you confused about whether it is because you are closed or because they are closed – or both?
Do you have a hard time knowing what your pain is about and what to do with your painful feelings?
Jane asks: Like so many others, I am disconnected from my feelings much of the time. When I do experience my feelings, I typically do . . . → Read More: What Should I Do With My Painful Feelings?”
Do you sometimes feel like you try to give your partner the connection he or she wants and can’t figure out how?
I was having a Skype session with Andrea and Lawrence. Married for 18 years with two teen-age children, their marriage was strained. When I asked Lawrence how things were going between them, his answer was the same as always: “Fine.” When I asked Andrea the same question, she got a pained look on her face. “Things are okay, but not great. I’m lonely with Lawrence so much of the time. We just can’t seem to connect.”