Intimacy With Others Starts From Within

Have you wondered why you may be having a hard time connecting with others? “Intimacy begins with oneself. It does no good to try to find intimacy with friends, lovers, and family if you are starting out from alienation and division within yourself.” – Thomas Moore

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Are You Addicted to the Internet?

Do you get addictively stuck on the Internet and can’t seem to find your way out?


Our society provides many ways we can avoid our feelings addictively. Many people today are addicted to being on the Internet as one way of avoiding feeling an underlying pain that they believe they cannot manage feeling. Continue reading Are You Addicted to the Internet?
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The Power of Appreciating Yourself

Do you often feel unappreciated?

“I’m a very nice person. I’m a good guy and I do nice things for people, but they never seem to appreciate me, and I feel angry about that,” said Martin in one of our first phone sessions.

For me, this statement holds much information regarding how Martin . . . → Read More: The Power of Appreciating Yourself

“Why Do I Seem to Attract Rejection?”

Are you perplexed regarding why you so often feel rejected by others?

Alana asked me the following question:

“My whole life I have felt that I don’t fit in with others – in my family, school, work – and while I have a pleasant, friendly demeanor, I also have an underlying self-consciousness, and . . . → Read More: “Why Do I Seem to Attract Rejection?”

“Divorced and Reconciled – But It’s Not Working”

After reconciling with your partner, do you find yourself back in the same pattern?


Nancy wrote to me asking the following question:

“My husband and I were married for 15 years. Divorced. Reconciled after 9 months and re-married. I am having second thoughts about the reconciliation and I’ve become introverted with no desire to communicate or be close. I feel very protective of my personal affairs and feelings. The more he pushes the farther away I remove myself from the relationship. I feel the relationship is severely co-dependent. How do we break the co-dependency? What steps can I take to figure out why my need to protect is so extreme?”

Nancy, it sounds like the underlying issue is that your husband wants to have control over how you feel about him, and you are in resistance to being controlled. As long as controlling and not being controlled is the intent governing your relationship, your relationship cannot heal. Continue reading “Divorced and Reconciled – But It’s Not Working”

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“I Lose Myself Around Others”

Have you wondered why you are often able to take loving care of yourself when you are alone but you lose yourself in relationships? Discover the answer now!

Do you find that you take loving care of yourself when you are alone, but that you lose yourself with someone you are attracted to, . . . → Read More: “I Lose Myself Around Others”