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How To Become Free? By Dr. Margaret Paul April 19, 2021 Do you want to feel free?
I used to think that to become free you had to practice like a samurai warrior, but now I understand that you have to practice like a devoted mother of a newborn child. . . . → Read More: How To Become Free  Comments are closed  Relationships, Self Improvement & Personal Growth, Spiritual Growth  anxiety, Inner Bonding, needy, relationship, self-love, wounded self By Dr. Margaret Paul November 30, 2020 Have you often wondered how to ask for what you want in a way that is not experienced as demanding or needy? In a healthy, loving relationship, partners ask each other for what they need, and generally receive a caring response. But sometimes this can . . . → Read More: “How Do I Ask For What I Need?” Have you ever wondered if your desire to share time with a partner is coming from need or neediness? Sometimes it’s a challenge to know what are reasonable relationship needs and when we are being needy. Klarese is asking this important question: “I am currently dating a wonderful person who I care about greatly. A challenge for me is his job is very demanding leaving us little time to spend together. I am aware my childhood triggers of abandonment are being tickled, however, I am having a difficult time figuring out if I am being reasonable or unreasonable with my need for attention. How do I discriminate between my codependent ‘needs’ and my true need to love and be loved while living my own fulfilled life?” Each of us has the right to want whatever amount of attention we want in a relationship. Some people love to spend a lot of time together and others need less time together. There is nothing wrong with Klarese wanting more time with a partner. Continue reading “Is My Need For Attention Reasonable or Needy?”       Comments are closed Relationships controlling behavior, Inner Bonding, love, Margaret Paul, needy, relationship advice, relationship help, relationship needs, Relationships, self-love, sharing love Dating provides many opportunities to learn and grow. Discover some of what you can learn that will be very valuable for you.
Franklin writes:
“I am a 68 year old male who was married for 27 years and now divorced 15 years. I have fallen in love with a woman after only three months of dating, but she is disengaging by being incommunicado. I am mystified since things were going so well then suddenly she is not available. What to do?” Franklin, as hard as it is, there is nothing you can do about her disengaging from you. You need to be very compassionate toward your own heartbreak. Generally, people do this when they get scared of intimacy. There are two major reasons they get scared: Continue reading Challenges of The Dating Scene Comments are closed Relationships dating, dating scene, Inner Bonding, Margaret Paul, neediness, needy, rejection, responsibility for feelings, self worth, wounded self Discover the difference between needs coming from emotional dependency and authentic needs that we have within a relationship.
Every few weeks I do a free webinar. People can listen on their computers or on the phone; they can write in asking questions or they can ask me directly on the phone. Here is one of the questions a woman – I will call her Susan – asked in a webinar on emotional dependency:
“When we are in a relationship and we have made our needs clear to our partner, is hanging on in the hope they will follow through with promises to meet our needs a sign of emotional dependency?” The answer is – it depends on what needs you are taking about. There are some needs we have that can only be met by another person, and there are other needs that we need to learn to meet ourselves. Continue reading Are You Emotionally Dependent? “Seek first to understand and then to be understood.” – Stephen Covey How often have you heard yourself say: “I just want someone to understand me.” I know what it feels like to not be understood, heard, or seen, as I spent most of the first 45 years of my life feeling invisible. It feels terrible. By that time I had learned to do what Stephen Covey recommends. I was very good at understanding others, but I still didn’t feel understood by them. Continue reading “I Just Want to be Understood.” |
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