“Why Do I Seem to Attract Rejection?”

Are you perplexed regarding why you so often feel rejected by others?

Alana asked me the following question:

“My whole life I have felt that I don’t fit in with others – in my family, school, work – and while I have a pleasant, friendly demeanor, I also have an underlying self-consciousness, and . . . → Read More: “Why Do I Seem to Attract Rejection?”

“Can We Be Friends After A Relationship Ends?”

Discover what you may need to address before deciding whether you can be friends with an ex partner.


Elise writes:

“My partner and I separated a year ago. My partner now wants to finalize the relationship but work on being ‘friends’. I am having difficulty connecting as just ‘friends’, it seems to trigger all my old wounds of rejection and abandonment. Do you have any advice?”

Elise, the fact that your old rejection and abandonment wounds are getting triggered is a great opportunity for you to become aware of how you are rejecting and abandoning yourself. This is the real issue in the present. Old rejection and abandonment wounds get healed when we learn to give ourselves the love, compassion, gentleness, tenderness, caring and understanding that we didn’t receive as children.

As children, our parents or other caregivers created these wounds in us with their unloving behavior. Now, these triggered wounds likely indicate that you are treating yourself the way your parents treated you and themselves. Continue reading “Can We Be Friends After A Relationship Ends?”

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Challenges of The Dating Scene

Dating provides many opportunities to learn and grow. Discover some of what you can learn that will be very valuable for you.

Franklin writes:

“I am a 68 year old male who was married for 27 years and now divorced 15 years. I have fallen in love with a woman after only three months of dating, but she is disengaging by being incommunicado. I am mystified since things were going so well then suddenly she is not available. What to do?”

Franklin, as hard as it is, there is nothing you can do about her disengaging from you. You need to be very compassionate toward your own heartbreak. Generally, people do this when they get scared of intimacy. There are two major reasons they get scared: Continue reading Challenges of The Dating Scene

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“If I’m Perfect, No One Will Reject Me” – Healing Perfectionism

Discover the 3 big false beliefs that lead to the burden of perfectionism, and the truth that heals these beliefs. . . . → Read More: “If I’m Perfect, No One Will Reject Me” – Healing Perfectionism

Lying as a Form of Control

Did you learn to lie as a child to protect yourself from rejection? Are you still using this form of control, which is undermining your self-esteem? Discover how to heal lying. . . . → Read More: Lying as a Form of Control

“I Want to Love But I Can’t Give Up Control”

Are there fears in the way of keeping your heart open to loving? You CAN learn how to feel safe enough to open your heart and share your love. . . . → Read More: “I Want to Love But I Can’t Give Up Control”