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What happens in your relationships when you try to get your point across to someone who isn’t open to your point of view? One of the situations that often creates relationship conflict is when you become devoted to getting your point across. Most of us love to be heard and understood. It . . . → Read More: Getting Your Point Across Do you have the courage to do the things you are afraid of, or do you allow fear to stop you? “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it.” ~Nelson Mandela “He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life.” ~Muhammad . . . → Read More: Courage Discover the many good reasons for having animals in your life. “Until a person has loved an animal a part of the soul remains unawakened.” ~Anatole France People who love animals know that there are many very good reasons to have animals in your life. Love and Presence Animals who have been loved . . . → Read More: Why Have Animals In Your Life Have you ever wondered if your desire to share time with a partner is coming from need or neediness? Sometimes it’s a challenge to know what are reasonable relationship needs and when we are being needy. Klarese is asking this important question: “I am currently dating a wonderful person who I care about greatly. A challenge for me is his job is very demanding leaving us little time to spend together. I am aware my childhood triggers of abandonment are being tickled, however, I am having a difficult time figuring out if I am being reasonable or unreasonable with my need for attention. How do I discriminate between my codependent ‘needs’ and my true need to love and be loved while living my own fulfilled life?” Each of us has the right to want whatever amount of attention we want in a relationship. Some people love to spend a lot of time together and others need less time together. There is nothing wrong with Klarese wanting more time with a partner. Continue reading “Is My Need For Attention Reasonable or Needy?”        Comments are closed  Relationships  controlling behavior, Inner Bonding, love, Margaret Paul, needy, relationship advice, relationship help, relationship needs, Relationships, self-love, sharing love How is your relationship with your partner? What are the positive and negative aspects of your relationship? What are the positive and negative aspects of your relationship? When you and your partner are both operating as loving adults, you will experience many positive results. When one or both of you are operating from your wounded self, you will experience many negative results. Since no one is able to be a loving adult all the time, it is likely that you experience a combination of positives and negatives.
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Are you longing for connection? Discover what you need to do to create loving connection with another. Deeply connecting with another is one of the great joys of life, and is something most of us long for. Deep connection takes away loneliness and gives us the experience of being deeply known. We feel safe and loved when our hearts connect. Research indicates that the happiest people in the world are those who live in communities where they feel connected with each other. Of course we long for connection when we don’t have it in our lives. But sometimes it seems elusive – even in committed relationships. Larissa asked me, “Am I being needy when I am longing for connection with my spouse?” A good question, and the answer is not simple. If you are longing for connection with your spouse because you are feeling alone and empty inside and you hope that he will fill you up and make you feel worthy and lovable, then the answer is yes – you are being needy. Continue reading Longing For Connection |
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