Relationships: What to Say, When to Say it

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 25, 2019 Most people are not conscious of when they are in their wounded self. They generally don’t know when they are being needy, demanding, blaming, attacking, guilting, and so on. And, they often don’t accurately remember what they said and did while operating from their wounded self. . . . → Read More: Relationships: What to Say, When to Say it

Attracting at Our Common Level of Woundedness

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 11, 2019

Are you attracting people who turn out to be very controlling or unavailable? Discover how you are attracting at your common level of woundedness.

I have often stated that we attract each other at our common level of woundedness or our common level of health, . . . → Read More: Attracting at Our Common Level of Woundedness

Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 04, 2019

Discover how self-abandonment can lead to using and objectifying others sexually.

Nicholas consulted with me because of problems he was having in his marriage. He was very distressed that his wife, Kayla, never wanted to have sex with him.

In the course of our work, it . . . → Read More: Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction

The Power of Being “Grokked”

By Dr. Margaret Paul February 11, 2019

It is profoundly healing when another is able to deeply understand and empathize with our core painful feelings.

In 1961, author Robert A. Heinlein coined the term “grok” in his best-selling book, “Stranger in a Strange Land”.

The Oxford English Dictionary defines grok as “to . . . → Read More: The Power of Being “Grokked”

Do You Feel Connected With Your Partner and Others?

By Dr. Margaret Paul February 04, 2019

Do you have a problem feeling connected with others? It might be because you are living in your head rather than in your heart.

When you were growing up, did you learn to protect against the pain of not being loved, by disconnecting from your . . . → Read More: Do You Feel Connected With Your Partner and Others?

Do You Actually Know When You Are Acting as a Victim?

By Dr. Margaret Paul January 21, 2019

Most of us don’t like to think of ourselves as a victim. Yet, without realizing it, you might be seeing yourself as a victim, and you might be putting yourself in the position of being a victim.

Do you recognize any of these situations?

Someone . . . → Read More: Do You Actually Know When You Are Acting as a Victim?