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By Dr. Margaret Paul October 04, 2020 The outlook doesn’t have to be bleak for those of us who had abusive or neglectful parenting. “There are clear links between an individual’s psychological coping strategies and his or her physiological coping strategies. Both are established in infancy and toddlerhood and tend to persist . . . → Read More: You CAN Heal The Wounds of Abusive Parenting Many parents try to be far better parents than their parents were, yet their children grow up feeling lost and empty. Discover why in this article. There was an interesting article in The Atlantic, entitled “How to Land Your Kid in Therapy: Why the obsession with our kids’ happiness may be dooming them to unhappy adulthoods. A therapist and mother reports.” http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2011/07/how-to-land-your-kid-in-therapy/8555/
The article is about the way many parents focus much of their energy on being there for their children, but their children end up feeling lost and empty. Continue reading A Problem with Today’s Parenting       “To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. but in that casket – safe, dark, motionless, airless – it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.”
The Four Loves, by C.S. Lewis I am grateful that a friend sent me the above quote, as it wonderfully states a vitally important subject that we all need to struggle with – to love or not to love. I had to confront this issue when I had my first child. Continue reading Taking the Risk of Loving    Comments are closed  Relationships, Self Improvement & Personal Growth  children, courage to love, grief, heartbreak, helplessness, I feel empty, Inner Bonding, loneliness, love, Margaret Paul, parents, Relationships “Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They came through you but not from you and though they are with you yet they belong not to you.”
— Kahlil Gibran Symptoms of enmeshed parenting:
If you identify with one or more of these symptoms, you might be enmeshed with your children. Consequences for your children of you being enmeshed with them: Continue reading Enmeshed Parenting Comments are closed Parenting children, controlling behavior, enmeshed parenting, enmeshment, Inner Bonding, Margaret Paul, Parenting, parents, personal responsibility, self worth |
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