Relationships: What to Say, When to Say it

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 25, 2019 Most people are not conscious of when they are in their wounded self. They generally don’t know when they are being needy, demanding, blaming, attacking, guilting, and so on. And, they often don’t accurately remember what they said and did while operating from their wounded self. . . . → Read More: Relationships: What to Say, When to Say it

Taking The Lid Off Your Feelings

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 17, 2019

For a moment, go back to being a little child and remember… remember an adult being unloving to you:

An adult (parent, other caregiver, teacher, relative, religious figure, or some other adult in authority) yells at you. An adult invalidates you. An adult ignores you. . . . → Read More: Taking The Lid Off Your Feelings

Attracting at Our Common Level of Woundedness

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 11, 2019

Are you attracting people who turn out to be very controlling or unavailable? Discover how you are attracting at your common level of woundedness.

I have often stated that we attract each other at our common level of woundedness or our common level of health, . . . → Read More: Attracting at Our Common Level of Woundedness

Is Your Caretaking Covering Up Your Heartbreak?

Are you giving yourself up to avoid feeling the heartache and heartbreak of others’ unloving behavior toward you?

Jenny grew up with a narcissistic mother who was incessantly demanding attention and demanding to have her way. Her mother would get furious when her husband or children didn’t do what she wanted them to . . . → Read More: Is Your Caretaking Covering Up Your Heartbreak?

The Important Messages From Our Deeper Painful Feelings

By Dr. Margaret Paul February 18, 2019

Do you know what your painful existential feelings are telling you? Discover the incredibly valuable information these feelings have for you.

One of the basic tenets of Inner Bonding is that our feelings are our inner guidance system. Our wounded feelings such as anxiety, depression, . . . → Read More: The Important Messages From Our Deeper Painful Feelings

The Power of Being “Grokked”

By Dr. Margaret Paul February 11, 2019

It is profoundly healing when another is able to deeply understand and empathize with our core painful feelings.

In 1961, author Robert A. Heinlein coined the term “grok” in his best-selling book, “Stranger in a Strange Land”.

The Oxford English Dictionary defines grok as “to . . . → Read More: The Power of Being “Grokked”