Are You Demanding? Do You Hate Demands?

“If you ask something of someone and you are upset over their response, then it wasn’t a request, it was a demand.” – Michael E. Angier

Most of us hate being demanded of. We don’t like being put in the position of feeling we have to say ‘yes’ in order to not run into another’s upset with us. Sometimes, to delay the negative response, we might say ‘yes’ and then not do it, hoping that the anticipated anger will never come. We might even mean ‘yes’ in the moment we say it, but because most of us hate being controlled by another, we might unconsciously resist doing what the other person has asked us to do. Continue reading Are You Demanding? Do You Hate Demands?

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Do You Isolate?

If you tend to isolate, and you believe that isolating protects you from getting hurt, you might be surprised to learn of the harm you are causing yourself.

In my counseling practice, I often have clients who tend to isolate as a way of protecting against their fears – especially their fears of rejection and engulfment. They are so afraid of being disliked, disapproved of, attacked or having demands made on them, that they choose to avoid relationships, rather than learn how to deal with these challenging situations.

These people have never developed a loving Adult self, who knows how to take loving care of them when others are angry, rejecting or demanding. They believe they prefer loneliness over the challenge of relationships. Continue reading Do You Isolate?

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“If I’m Perfect, No One Will Reject Me” – Healing Perfectionism

Discover the 3 big false beliefs that lead to the burden of perfectionism, and the truth that heals these beliefs. . . . → Read More: “If I’m Perfect, No One Will Reject Me” – Healing Perfectionism

Are Kindness and Tenderness Signs of Weakness?

Are you confusing gentleness and kindness with weakness? Discover what weakness really is and how to acquire the strength to be kind and gentle. . . . → Read More: Are Kindness and Tenderness Signs of Weakness?

Addiction to Gossip

Are you addicted to gossiping about others or do you know others who gossip? Discover the underlying cause of gossiping. . . . → Read More: Addiction to Gossip

Lying as a Form of Control

Did you learn to lie as a child to protect yourself from rejection? Are you still using this form of control, which is undermining your self-esteem? Discover how to heal lying. . . . → Read More: Lying as a Form of Control