Discover what information your confusion is giving you.
There are two kinds of situations that can cause confusion:
1) You might feel confused when your wounded self is in charge and you are judging yourself. This confusion is telling you that your wounded self . . . → Read More: The Important Information Confusion Has For You
No matter how badly you currently feel about yourself, you can heal your shame and feel excited about your life.
“I have no value.” “I’m not good enough.” “I don’t like myself.” “If they really knew me, they wouldn’t like me.” “I don’t deserve to . . . → Read More: Letting Go Of Shame
Have you experienced feeling resistance to being a loving adult and taking responsibility for your feelings?
When I first started practicing Inner Bonding, I was in much resistance to taking responsibility for myself. I had spent too many years believing that getting love – and trying to . . . → Read More: Resistance to Being a Loving Adult
Loving actions are often the opposite of actions that are self-abandoning.
Discovering the loving action toward ourselves in a particular situation – Step 4 of Inner Bonding – is a wonderful and creative process. However, since we have so few role models for loving action toward ourselves, . . . → Read More: What’s Loving to Yourself – and What Isn’t?
For a moment, go back to being a little child and remember… remember an adult being unloving to you:
An adult (parent, other caregiver, teacher, relative, religious figure, or some other adult in authority) yells at you. An adult invalidates you. An adult ignores you. . . . → Read More: Taking The Lid Off Your Feelings