The Fear of Loving

The Fear of Loving

By Dr. Margaret Paul May 06, 2019

Loving holds within it the greatest joy and the greatest pain in life. Yet, without it, life is empty.

Love. We all want it. We develop many ways of trying to get love and be loved. From the time we are . . . → Read More: The Fear of Loving

Why Is Nothing Changing or Healing?

Len contacted me for Inner Bonding facilitation while he was going through a divorce. He had discovered Inner Bonding through a Google search and realized that what he was struggling with was self-abandonment.

Len was diligent in having sessions with me and in reading everything he could about Inner Bonding. Within a couple . . . → Read More: Why Is Nothing Changing or Healing?

Creating Safety

By Dr. Margaret Paul April 01, 2019

Which do you believe keeps you safer – your wounded self or your spiritual guidance?

As small children we all created our wounded self to try to feel safe in an unsafe environment. Our wounded self learned many different ways to try to feel safe. And these protections . . . → Read More: Creating Safety

Relationships: What to Say, When to Say it

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 25, 2019 Most people are not conscious of when they are in their wounded self. They generally don’t know when they are being needy, demanding, blaming, attacking, guilting, and so on. And, they often don’t accurately remember what they said and did while operating from their wounded self. . . . → Read More: Relationships: What to Say, When to Say it

Taking The Lid Off Your Feelings

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 17, 2019

For a moment, go back to being a little child and remember… remember an adult being unloving to you:

An adult (parent, other caregiver, teacher, relative, religious figure, or some other adult in authority) yells at you. An adult invalidates you. An adult ignores you. . . . → Read More: Taking The Lid Off Your Feelings

Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 04, 2019

Discover how self-abandonment can lead to using and objectifying others sexually.

Nicholas consulted with me because of problems he was having in his marriage. He was very distressed that his wife, Kayla, never wanted to have sex with him.

In the course of our work, it . . . → Read More: Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction