There is a vast difference between feeling sorry for yourself and feeling kindness toward yourself.

Self-Pity

When you see yourself as a victim, you indulge in self-pity. You are a bottomless pit of misery, and you may find yourself crying endless victim tears. You might say things like:

• Why do bad things always happen to me?
• I’m a loser and I’ll always be a loser.
• It’s not fair.
• God is here for everyone but me.
• I’m just not one of the lucky ones.
• Everything is my fault. I’m not good enough.

Self-pity might serve two purposes: Continue reading Self-Pity or Self-Compassion