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Healing Neediness

Margaret — Thu, 30 Jun 2022 16:30:53 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul October 04, 2021

Discover when you have a legitimate need and when you are being needy, and how to heal neediness.

Neediness is often a primary cause of relationship problems.

We are needy when we abandon and reject ourselves and then expect others to take responsibility for our . . . → Read More: Healing Neediness

Do You Feel Invisible To Your Partner?

Margaret — Thu, 30 Sep 2021 17:42:27 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul April 05, 2021

Do your conversations with your partner feel like a one-way street?

Many of us have the experience of feeling unseen and unheard by our partner.For example, Kristy asks:”My partner is a good sharer and easily talks about his feelings, his day, his dreams, his struggles, etc. . . . → Read More: Do You Feel Invisible To Your Partner?

Relationships: “Why am I Struggling After All My Healing?”

Margaret — Tue, 24 Nov 2020 00:44:45 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul November 23, 2020

Do you believe that, because you may have already done a lot of healing work, your relationship should be easier?

I can’t tell you how often I hear from my clients that “I should be further along in my healing process,” especially when it comes to relationships.

Caretaking Others Prevents You From Knowing Yourself

Margaret — Tue, 17 Nov 2020 00:31:14 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul November 16, 2020

Is your addiction to caretaking stopping you from knowing yourself?

“I have had to parent my whole life, never really able to be a kid from my childlike mother to my son-like husband. Everything seems to depend on me doing the right thing and staying . . . → Read More: Caretaking Others Prevents You From Knowing Yourself

When it is Loving to You to Control – and When it’s Not

Margaret — Tue, 03 Nov 2020 00:54:23 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul November 02, 2020

Discover when controlling opens your heart and when it closes you down and blocks your connection with your spiritual guidance.

The kind of control that actually blocks our ability to access spirit is when we try to control what we can’t control – such as . . . → Read More: When it is Loving to You to Control – and When it’s Not

Staying Loving In The Face Of Others’ Unloving Behavior

Margaret — Tue, 27 Oct 2020 02:25:02 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul October 26, 2020

Discover what healing needs to occur within you before you can stop being reactive to others’ unloving behavior.

One of our greatest challenges in relationships is to not get triggered into self-abandonment when others are unloving – to stay connected with ourselves rather than getting . . . → Read More: Staying Loving In The Face Of Others’ Unloving Behavior

Does Another’s Wounded Self Trigger Your Wounded Self?

Margaret — Mon, 28 Sep 2020 21:13:18 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul September 28, 2020

Do you disconnect in the face of others’ disconnection? Do you get angry in the face of others’ anger? Discover how to stay connected with yourself. Jenna was angry that she kept getting triggered into her wounded self when her husband, Seth, was in his wounded . . . → Read More: Does Another’s Wounded Self Trigger Your Wounded Self?

Are You Resistant To Loving Yourself?

Margaret — Mon, 14 Sep 2020 20:42:26 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul September 14, 2020

Do you want to love your inner child when you are in pain, or do you reject and abandon yourself in the face of your painful feelings?

Lauren, a client of mine, has been practicing Inner Bonding for a number of years but she was . . . → Read More: Are You Resistant To Loving Yourself?

What Do You Do When Someone Hurts You?

Margaret — Sun, 06 Sep 2020 17:21:03 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul September 06, 2020

When someone does something that scares or hurts you, do you lovingly manage your pain or do try to control them?

When I was a very young child, I quickly learned to jump out of myself whenever my mother was angry at me – which . . . → Read More: What Do You Do When Someone Hurts You?

“I Can’t Receive Love.”

Margaret — Mon, 17 Aug 2020 20:04:04 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul August 17, 2020

Do you have trouble giving and receiving love? You CAN heal this

Lindsay wrote during one of my webinars:

“I can’t receive love. Physically, not even a kiss or stroke of kindness. I was never told ‘you’re awesome, great job, you’re beautiful, you can do . . . → Read More: “I Can’t Receive Love.”