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Resistance: Wanting Freedom but Staying Stuck

Margaret — Tue, 31 May 2022 15:56:16 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul August 30, 2021

Are you resistant to loving yourself? Are you winning the battle but losing the war – and losing yourself?

When Cecily was seven years old and her mother was beating her, she made a deep and profound decision: “I will not let her win. I . . . → Read More: Resistance: Wanting Freedom but Staying Stuck

What Do You Do When Someone Hurts You?

Margaret — Sun, 06 Sep 2020 17:21:03 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul September 06, 2020

When someone does something that scares or hurts you, do you lovingly manage your pain or do try to control them?

When I was a very young child, I quickly learned to jump out of myself whenever my mother was angry at me – which . . . → Read More: What Do You Do When Someone Hurts You?

Are You Selling Your Soul?

Margaret — Mon, 02 Mar 2015 17:57:46 +0000

You might not think you are selling your soul, but is this true?

What have you given up for money and possessions?

Have you given up kindness to get ahead?

Have you given up family time for a bigger TV?

Have you given up fun for a new car?

. . . → Read More: Are You Selling Your Soul?

Inner Disconnection = Planetary Disconnection

Margaret — Sat, 18 Oct 2014 07:30:22 +0000

The disturbing lack of a personal spiritual connection that many experience has huge ramifications for our planet.

How are we doing as inhabitants of this beautiful planet? Sometimes we need to take stock of ourselves – personally, nationally and globally. On a personal level, do the majority of us see life as a sacred . . . → Read More: Inner Disconnection = Planetary Disconnection

Can I Change A Narcissist?

Margaret — Mon, 22 Apr 2013 16:45:48 +0000

Sometimes we are clueless regarding the subtle ways we are trying to control, while being very aware of a partner’s controlling behavior.

Tara asked me the following question:

“Dear Dr. Paul, How do you reach your spouse if they are narcissistic and shut down emotionally? He does not say anything when I explain . . . → Read More: Can I Change A Narcissist?

“I Don’t Know How To Give Her What She Wants From Me.”

Margaret — Tue, 09 Oct 2012 00:50:52 +0000

Do you sometimes feel like you try to give your partner the connection he or she wants and can’t figure out how?

I was having a Skype session with Andrea and Lawrence. Married for 18 years with two teen-age children, their marriage was strained. When I asked Lawrence how things were going between . . . → Read More: “I Don’t Know How To Give Her What She Wants From Me.”

The Challenge of Accepting Our Helplessness Over Others

Margaret — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 13:19:49 +0000

What do you do when you feel helpless over another’s choices? What is the result? Are you happy with how you manage this feeling?

Helplessness is a very difficult feeling. It can even feel like life or death to those of us who were left to cry for hours as babies, with no one . . . → Read More: The Challenge of Accepting Our Helplessness Over Others

When You Feel Hurt By Your Partner

Margaret — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 17:47:48 +0000

I grew up with a very angry mother who would attack me out of the blue. As a highly sensitive only child, the fear and heartbreak of being treated so unlovingly was unbearable. So rather than feel the hurt, I numbed it out by learning to stay in my head rather than being present . . . → Read More: When You Feel Hurt By Your Partner