Did you feel loved, valued, cherished and safe as a child?

Many of us did not receive the love we needed. Whether it was due to physical, sexual, and/or emotional abuse . . . → Read More: Your Wounded Self Is Not the Real You]]> https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/your-wounded-self-is-not-the-real-you/feed 0 https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/how-to-feel-safe-and-connected-with-yourself-and-others https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/how-to-feel-safe-and-connected-with-yourself-and-others#comments Sun, 09 Jul 2023 17:42:54 +0000 http://margaretpaul.com/?p=2590 Discover what it takes to create a deep level of safety and connection with yourself and with others.

Most people have a deep desire to feel safe, and to feel connected with the people in their lives. Yet, many people never feel a sense . . . → Read More: How to Feel Safe and Connected with Yourself and Others]]> https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/how-to-feel-safe-and-connected-with-yourself-and-others/feed 0 https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/protecting-from-your-wounded-self-or-your-loving-adult https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/protecting-from-your-wounded-self-or-your-loving-adult#comments Tue, 31 Jan 2023 22:01:14 +0000 http://margaretpaul.com/?p=2568 Do you sometimes get confused about when protecting yourself is loving and when it’s controlling?

Clients often ask me a question such as the following:

“What’s the difference between protecting or controlling from your wounded self or from your loving adult? Isn’t the loving adult supposed . . . → Read More: Protecting: From Your Wounded Self or Your Loving Adult]]> https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/protecting-from-your-wounded-self-or-your-loving-adult/feed 0 https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/is-your-intent-to-be-safe-or-to-be-loving https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/is-your-intent-to-be-safe-or-to-be-loving#comments Tue, 31 Jan 2023 19:40:39 +0000 http://margaretpaul.com/?p=2570 We often convince ourselves we are being loving when we are really trying to avoid facing our fears.

Knowing our true intent is sometimes a tricky thing.

For example, Tony knows that he has huge fears of being rejected or controlled by a woman. In . . . → Read More: Is Your Intent to Be Safe or To Be Loving?]]> https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/is-your-intent-to-be-safe-or-to-be-loving/feed 0 https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/do-you-take-accountability-for-your-energy https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/do-you-take-accountability-for-your-energy#comments Sat, 31 Dec 2022 19:24:42 +0000 http://margaretpaul.com/?p=2572 Are you aware of how your energy affects others, and do you care about this?

Most of us know that we need to be accountable for our harmful actions toward others. We know that we are responsible if we physically harm others, steal their property, . . . → Read More: Do You Take Accountability for Your Energy?]]> https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/do-you-take-accountability-for-your-energy/feed 0 https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/what-are-you-afraid-to-feel https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/what-are-you-afraid-to-feel#comments Mon, 14 Nov 2022 15:43:41 +0000 http://margaretpaul.com/?p=2566 Are you stuck in wounded pain due to avoiding your deeper existential pain of life?

We desire to find the path to peace, joy, and freedom. We strive to feel lovable, worthy, and secure. We know that if we do our Inner Bonding work . . . → Read More: What Are You Afraid To Feel?]]> https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/what-are-you-afraid-to-feel/feed 0 https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/when-is-enough-enough https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/when-is-enough-enough#comments Wed, 31 Aug 2022 16:21:24 +0000 http://margaretpaul.com/?p=2564 How can you know when it’s time to leave a relationship?

“I’ve had it! Enough is enough!”

Have you ever said this regarding a relationship? What did you do? Did you actually leave when you said this, or was this just a threat?

I . . . → Read More: When is Enough Enough?]]> https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/when-is-enough-enough/feed 0 https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/how-to-rewire-your-brain https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/how-to-rewire-your-brain#comments Wed, 31 Aug 2022 16:02:38 +0000 http://margaretpaul.com/?p=2561 Are you tired of repeating the same self-abandoning behaviors over and over? You CAN rewire your brain!

There is much wonderful research currently being done on what rewires the brain toward truth, self-love, and self-care. It is clear from this research that what you focus . . . → Read More: How To Rewire Your Brain]]> https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/how-to-rewire-your-brain/feed 0 https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/healing-neediness https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/healing-neediness#comments Thu, 30 Jun 2022 16:30:53 +0000 http://margaretpaul.com/?p=2558 Discover when you have a legitimate need and when you are being needy, and how to heal neediness.

Neediness is often a primary cause of relationship problems.

We are needy when we abandon and reject ourselves and then expect others to take responsibility for our . . . → Read More: Healing Neediness]]> https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/healing-neediness/feed 0 https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/healing-from-attracting-unhealthy-relationships https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/healing-from-attracting-unhealthy-relationships#comments Wed, 29 Jun 2022 16:51:26 +0000 http://margaretpaul.com/?p=2545

By Dr. Margaret Paul September 27, 2021

Are you attracting emotionally unhealthy relationships over and over? You CAN heal and attract loving relationships with friends and a partner!

Janis asked me the following question:

“I have been doing therapy and reading a lot about healing since a short but very emotionally abusive relationship . . . → Read More: Healing from Attracting Unhealthy Relationships]]> https://margaretpaul.com/relationships/healing-from-attracting-unhealthy-relationships/feed 0