Dr. Margaret Paul » Self Improvement & Personal Growth

Your Wounded Self Is Not the Real You

Margaret — Sun, 09 Jul 2023 17:53:49 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul November 30, 2021

When we believe we are our wounded self, we end up with low self-worth.

Did you feel loved, valued, cherished and safe as a child?

Many of us did not receive the love we needed. Whether it was due to physical, sexual, and/or emotional abuse . . . → Read More: Your Wounded Self Is Not the Real You

How to Feel Safe and Connected with Yourself and Others

Margaret — Sun, 09 Jul 2023 17:42:54 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul November 22, 2021

Discover what it takes to create a deep level of safety and connection with yourself and with others.

Most people have a deep desire to feel safe, and to feel connected with the people in their lives. Yet, many people never feel a sense . . . → Read More: How to Feel Safe and Connected with Yourself and Others

Protecting: From Your Wounded Self or Your Loving Adult

Margaret — Tue, 31 Jan 2023 22:01:14 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul November 15, 2021

Do you sometimes get confused about when protecting yourself is loving and when it’s controlling?

Clients often ask me a question such as the following:

“What’s the difference between protecting or controlling from your wounded self or from your loving adult? Isn’t the loving adult supposed . . . → Read More: Protecting: From Your Wounded Self or Your Loving Adult

Is Your Intent to Be Safe or To Be Loving?

Margaret — Tue, 31 Jan 2023 19:40:39 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul November 08, 2021

We often convince ourselves we are being loving when we are really trying to avoid facing our fears.

Knowing our true intent is sometimes a tricky thing.

For example, Tony knows that he has huge fears of being rejected or controlled by a woman. In . . . → Read More: Is Your Intent to Be Safe or To Be Loving?

How To Rewire Your Brain

Margaret — Wed, 31 Aug 2022 16:02:38 +0000

Dr. Margaret Paul October 11, 2021

Are you tired of repeating the same self-abandoning behaviors over and over? You CAN rewire your brain!

There is much wonderful research currently being done on what rewires the brain toward truth, self-love, and self-care. It is clear from this research that what you focus . . . → Read More: How To Rewire Your Brain

Healing Neediness

Margaret — Thu, 30 Jun 2022 16:30:53 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul October 04, 2021

Discover when you have a legitimate need and when you are being needy, and how to heal neediness.

Neediness is often a primary cause of relationship problems.

We are needy when we abandon and reject ourselves and then expect others to take responsibility for our . . . → Read More: Healing Neediness

Healing from Attracting Unhealthy Relationships

Margaret — Wed, 29 Jun 2022 16:51:26 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul September 27, 2021

Are you attracting emotionally unhealthy relationships over and over? You CAN heal and attract loving relationships with friends and a partner!

Janis asked me the following question:

“I have been doing therapy and reading a lot about healing since a short but very emotionally abusive relationship . . . → Read More: Healing from Attracting Unhealthy Relationships

Do You Know You Are Good?

Margaret — Tue, 28 Jun 2022 23:24:46 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul September 20, 2021

Life changes dramatically when you discover your essential goodness and define your own worth.

What does it mean to be good or worthy? What does it mean to be bad or unworthy? Have you defined these terms for yourself?

Do you tell yourself you . . . → Read More: Do You Know You Are Good?

Are You Reliable and Dependable?

Margaret — Tue, 28 Jun 2022 23:14:09 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul September 13, 2021

Can your inner child and others rely on you to follow through on what you say you are going to do?

It seems to me that, more and more, I can’t depend on others to follow through on what they say they are going . . . → Read More: Are You Reliable and Dependable?

Are You Emotionally Present or Emotionally Disconnected?

Margaret — Thu, 28 Apr 2022 14:29:29 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul August 23, 2021

Do you move toward your feelings so you can learn from them, or do you move away from them with your various addictions?

Our society does not foster emotional presence and mindfulness. In fact, we offer a myriad of addictions to avoid feeling our . . . → Read More: Are You Emotionally Present or Emotionally Disconnected?