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Staying Loving In The Face Of Others’ Unloving Behavior

Margaret — Tue, 27 Oct 2020 02:25:02 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul October 26, 2020

Discover what healing needs to occur within you before you can stop being reactive to others’ unloving behavior.

One of our greatest challenges in relationships is to not get triggered into self-abandonment when others are unloving – to stay connected with ourselves rather than getting . . . → Read More: Staying Loving In The Face Of Others’ Unloving Behavior

“When Someone’s Behavior Affects Me, What Can I Do?”

Margaret — Mon, 09 Mar 2015 17:04:30 +0000

When someone’s behavior is affecting you, what can you do, other than blame them?

We Are Not Separate

Some authors suggest that, when we are healthy enough, we will not be affected by others‘ unloving verbal behavior. We will rise above it and not take their words personally – that “Sticks and stones . . . → Read More: “When Someone’s Behavior Affects Me, What Can I Do?”

When To Compromise…And When Not To Compromise

Margaret — Mon, 01 Dec 2014 21:59:31 +0000

Discover when compromise is healthy and when it’s self-abandoning.

Compromise! What does this word conjure up for you? Is it is a positive or negative word for you? Does it bring up a sense of loving resolution, or a sense of losing yourself and losing your integrity?

When you think about compromising, what are . . . → Read More: When To Compromise…And When Not To Compromise

“Why Do I Feel Shame When I’m Being Blamed?”

Margaret — Tue, 27 Aug 2013 18:20:41 +0000

What’s really happening when someone blames and shames you? If you stopped taking it personally, what would you be feeling?

What do you generally do when someone blames you for his or her feelings? Do you find yourself taking it personally and blaming yourself? This is what Melinda struggles with:

“How do I . . . → Read More: “Why Do I Feel Shame When I’m Being Blamed?”

The Art of Setting Boundaries

Margaret — Mon, 19 Nov 2012 18:41:50 +0000

Discover what a boundary is and what it isn’t.

Merilee wrote the following question to me in one of my relationship webinars:

“Hi Dr. Paul — One of my biggest struggles is being open to giving and receiving love, but also setting boundaries. I want to be loving, not controlling, but I don’t . . . → Read More: The Art of Setting Boundaries

When You Feel Hurt By Your Partner

Margaret — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 17:47:48 +0000

I grew up with a very angry mother who would attack me out of the blue. As a highly sensitive only child, the fear and heartbreak of being treated so unlovingly was unbearable. So rather than feel the hurt, I numbed it out by learning to stay in my head rather than being present . . . → Read More: When You Feel Hurt By Your Partner

When Should You Take It Personally?

Margaret — Mon, 03 Jan 2011 15:42:25 +0000

We hear so often, “Don’t take it personally.” What does this really mean? The answer is NOT simple!

Let’s say that you are in a great mood, feeling loving and expansive, and someone – either someone close to you or a stranger like a clerk in a store – is withdrawn or attacking.

. . . → Read More: When Should You Take It Personally?