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You Can Change The World

Margaret — Mon, 20 Jul 2020 21:59:02 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul July 20, 2020

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.” –Margaret Mead, 1901-1978, Anthropologist, Writer and Speaker

Do you have any idea how . . . → Read More: You Can Change The World

Letting Go Of Shame

Margaret — Mon, 21 Oct 2019 19:53:22 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul October 21, 2019

No matter how badly you currently feel about yourself, you can heal your shame and feel excited about your life.

“I have no value.” “I’m not good enough.” “I don’t like myself.” “If they really knew me, they wouldn’t like me.” “I don’t deserve to . . . → Read More: Letting Go Of Shame

Why Racism?

Margaret — Wed, 03 Sep 2014 01:10:40 +0000

Discover some of the underlying causes of racism and what is necessary to heal this scourge of our society.

I do not pretend to be an expert on what causes a person to be a racist, but I would like to explore some ideas based on the principles of Inner Bonding.

Those of you . . . → Read More: Why Racism?

Are You Hiding?

Margaret — Tue, 01 Jan 2013 02:10:34 +0000

“The art of living lies not in eliminating but in growing with troubles.” ~ Bernard M. Baruch

“How can I get this pain to go away?”

This is often what clients who seek my help ask me in a first session. Because they have never learned to manage and learn from their pain, they want . . . → Read More: Are You Hiding?

Are You Abandoning Yourself?

Margaret — Mon, 23 Jul 2012 16:43:51 +0000

Do you believe that feelings of abandonment are coming from others abandoning you – or do they come from self-abandonment?

When we think about abandonment, we generally think about being left by someone. But abandonment is about leaving someone we are responsible for – a child or an old or sick person who . . . → Read More: Are You Abandoning Yourself?

Do You Chase When Someone Withdraws?

Margaret — Sun, 19 Jun 2011 19:57:22 +0000

A member of our website asked this question in our advice section:

I’ve read several of the articles on the site, but have not seen anything mentioned about “chasing” after someone who is pulling away in a relationship. That has to be a form of protection against deeper feelings, though, right? If someone is . . . → Read More: Do You Chase When Someone Withdraws?

The Law of Love

Margaret — Sun, 12 Jun 2011 15:02:15 +0000

I have learned over my 43 years of counseling that no one heals without a personal connection to a spiritual source of Guidance. William was struggling with issues of shame and depression. He had struggled with feelings of insecurity and jealousy most of his life, despite years of inner work. While he intellectually knew . . . → Read More: The Law of Love

“I Don’t Deserve to be Loved”

Margaret — Mon, 16 May 2011 12:08:21 +0000

Have you ever said to yourself, “The reason God doesn’t love me is I don’t deserve to be loved?”

Have you ever looked inside to discover why you might not be loving to yourself and answered with, “I’m not worthy of love”?

I hear this all the time from my clients. It is often . . . → Read More: “I Don’t Deserve to be Loved”

The Crazymaking Trap: Proving Your Worth Over and Over

Margaret — Mon, 27 Dec 2010 14:14:32 +0000

Marcus grew up the eldest of three, with a highly critical mother and an absent father. Marcus’s mother frequently told him or implied that he was too stupid to take care of himself – that he would be nothing without her. She programmed him to believe that she was his only source of love . . . → Read More: The Crazymaking Trap: Proving Your Worth Over and Over