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“How Do I Ask For What I Need?”

Margaret — Mon, 30 Nov 2020 22:50:18 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul November 30, 2020

Have you often wondered how to ask for what you want in a way that is not experienced as demanding or needy?

In a healthy, loving relationship, partners ask each other for what they need, and generally receive a caring response. But sometimes this can . . . → Read More: “How Do I Ask For What I Need?”

When You Love Yourself, You Love Others

Margaret — Mon, 02 Feb 2015 18:21:41 +0000

Are you being selfish if you do what brings you joy, even if others don’t like it? Do you feel trapped, believing you can’t really take loving care of yourself without being unloving to others?

One of the questions I often hear from my clients is, “If I take care of myself and . . . → Read More: When You Love Yourself, You Love Others

When You Love Yourself, You Let Others Off the Hook

Margaret — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 18:17:28 +0000

Frequently, when I start to work with a new client, they believe that loving their self is selfish. Nothing could be further from the truth. A more accurate definition of selfish is expecting others to give themselves up and do for you what you can and need to be doing for yourself.

Letting . . . → Read More: When You Love Yourself, You Let Others Off the Hook