Dr. Margaret Paul » relationship challenges

Do You Make People Up?

Margaret — Sat, 18 Oct 2014 07:38:27 +0000

Do you often see people as you want them to be rather than as they are? Has this caused you problems in your relationships?

“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” —Anais Nin

A variation on the above quote might be, “We don’t see people as they are – . . . → Read More: Do You Make People Up?

Addiction to Getting Others To Change

Margaret — Mon, 25 Mar 2013 22:50:18 +0000

Are you focusing on getting your partner to change to avoid a painful choice that you might need to make?

If you find yourself often focused on healing others or hoping you can get others to change, it is likely that you don’t think of this as an addiction. I define an addiction . . . → Read More: Addiction to Getting Others To Change

Are You Demanding? Do You Hate Demands?

Margaret — Sat, 14 Apr 2012 21:27:47 +0000

“If you ask something of someone and you are upset over their response, then it wasn’t a request, it was a demand.” – Michael E. Angier

Most of us hate being demanded of. We don’t like being put in the position of feeling we have to say ‘yes’ in order to not run . . . → Read More: Are You Demanding? Do You Hate Demands?