Dr. Margaret Paul » narcissism

You Don’t Really Know Someone Until You Have Conflict

Margaret — Mon, 08 Jun 2020 22:09:51 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul June 08, 2020

Do you sometimes wonder if you really know the person you are dating?

People often ask me how they can know whether or not someone they are dating is really an open and caring person.

“He seems open and caring, but how can I . . . → Read More: You Don’t Really Know Someone Until You Have Conflict

Are You Stuck in One-Way Relationships?

Margaret — Tue, 18 Nov 2014 03:29:46 +0000

Do you sometimes feel trapped with some who wants to be listened to but doesn’t want to listen to you?

One of the common complaints I hear from my clients is that they listen well but they end up just listening and never being heard.

This is the issue that Ginger wrote to me . . . → Read More: Are You Stuck in One-Way Relationships?

First-Date Blues – What Can you Learn?

Margaret — Tue, 29 Oct 2013 20:35:57 +0000

Dating is challenging for many. Here are some tips to turn it into a learning adventure.

Sometimes, dating can be discouraging, or it can be a learning experience. One of the things I encourage my dating clients to do is to use their experience to hone their intuitive skills – starting from the first . . . → Read More: First-Date Blues – What Can you Learn?

Can I Change A Narcissist?

Margaret — Mon, 22 Apr 2013 16:45:48 +0000

Sometimes we are clueless regarding the subtle ways we are trying to control, while being very aware of a partner’s controlling behavior.

Tara asked me the following question:

“Dear Dr. Paul, How do you reach your spouse if they are narcissistic and shut down emotionally? He does not say anything when I explain . . . → Read More: Can I Change A Narcissist?

The Art of Conversation

Margaret — Mon, 03 Dec 2012 16:16:16 +0000

Do you have mostly one-way or two-way conversations? What kind of conversationalist are you?

What happens in your conversations with people? The kind of conversation you have with someone says a lot about both you and them.

There are mainly two kinds of conversations: one-way conversations and two-way conversations.

One-Way Conversations

My client, . . . → Read More: The Art of Conversation

Is There Such A Thing As Healthy Narcissism?

Margaret — Sat, 17 Mar 2012 15:37:04 +0000

Discover that ‘healthy narcissism’ is an oxymoron!

All of us have an ego wounded self who is narcissistic to one degree or another. For the purpose of this article, I am defining narcissism as abandoning responsibility for ourselves and expecting someone else to attend to us and define our self-worth, or expecting something external . . . → Read More: Is There Such A Thing As Healthy Narcissism?

Caretaking: A Covert Form of Narcissism

Margaret — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 16:57:19 +0000

Caretaking is NOT the opposite of narcissism!

I used to think that caretaking was the opposite of narcissism. I thought that narcissists were people who demanded that others give themselves up to care-take the narcissist. I thought that caretakers were people who were programmed to take care of others instead of themselves. I thought . . . → Read More: Caretaking: A Covert Form of Narcissism

Discover Your Level of Narcissism

Margaret — Sun, 24 Jul 2011 12:54:20 +0000

All of us have some characteristics and behaviors that fall into the category of narcissism. Narcissism is on a continuum from mild, occasional, and subtle to the more ubiquitous, obvious or extreme behaviors of a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Since narcissism is likely a part of everyone’s ego wounded self, it is helpful to your . . . → Read More: Discover Your Level of Narcissism

“I Just Want to be Understood.”

Margaret — Mon, 20 Dec 2010 19:53:02 +0000

“Seek first to understand and then to be understood.” – Stephen Covey

How often have you heard yourself say:

“I just want someone to understand me.” “I just want to be heard.” “I feel invisible.” “I just want to be seen.”

I know what it feels like to not be understood, heard, or seen, . . . → Read More: “I Just Want to be Understood.”