Dr. Margaret Paul » emotional connection

Longing For Connection

Margaret — Mon, 16 Mar 2015 17:11:17 +0000

Are you longing for connection? Discover what you need to do to create loving connection with another.

Deeply connecting with another is one of the great joys of life, and is something most of us long for. Deep connection takes away loneliness and gives us the experience of being deeply known. We feel . . . → Read More: Longing For Connection

Intimacy With Others Starts From Within

Margaret — Tue, 01 Oct 2013 00:23:59 +0000

Have you wondered why you may be having a hard time connecting with others? “Intimacy begins with oneself. It does no good to try to find intimacy with friends, lovers, and family if you are starting out from alienation and division within yourself.” – Thomas Moore

Do you try to create intimacy with your . . . → Read More: Intimacy With Others Starts From Within

“How Do I Deal With My Critical Mother?”

Margaret — Mon, 11 Mar 2013 19:18:38 +0000

Dealing with critical people, especially a parent, is a challenge for all of us. Here are some options for dealing with a critical mother.

Having a critical mother is a big challenge. I know, because I grew up with an extremely critical mother. I can certainly relate to Lori, who asked the follow . . . → Read More: “How Do I Deal With My Critical Mother?”

Are You Emotionally Dependent?

Margaret — Tue, 18 Sep 2012 04:42:59 +0000

Discover the difference between needs coming from emotional dependency and authentic needs that we have within a relationship.

Every few weeks I do a free webinar. People can listen on their computers or on the phone; they can write in asking questions or they can ask me directly on the phone. Here is . . . → Read More: Are You Emotionally Dependent?

Do You Come To Your Partner Open And/or Happy?

Margaret — Mon, 09 Jul 2012 16:15:29 +0000

Are you aware of what state you are in when you and your partner come together?

On a recent visit with my daughter and her family, she and I were taking a walk and talking about our mutual work.

“I read a lot of books about relationships that offer suggestions for how to . . . → Read More: Do You Come To Your Partner Open And/or Happy?

How to Connect with Others

Margaret — Sun, 27 Nov 2011 17:48:00 +0000

Are you mystified about how to create meaningful emotional connection with others?

We are inherently social beings, and feeling emotionally connected with another is one of the great joys in life. Yet, all too often, we feel lonely around another or others, wanting to connect and not knowing how. We may have learned numerous . . . → Read More: How to Connect with Others

Feeling Disconnected From Your Partner?

Margaret — Sun, 31 Jul 2011 12:43:53 +0000

“We can’t seem to connect anymore.”

This is one of the most common complaints I hear in my counseling practice.

We all know that it is generally easy to connect at the beginning of a relationship – before all the protections and defenses come up. But what do you do to reconnect once you . . . → Read More: Feeling Disconnected From Your Partner?

Do You Chase When Someone Withdraws?

Margaret — Sun, 19 Jun 2011 19:57:22 +0000

A member of our website asked this question in our advice section:

I’ve read several of the articles on the site, but have not seen anything mentioned about “chasing” after someone who is pulling away in a relationship. That has to be a form of protection against deeper feelings, though, right? If someone is . . . → Read More: Do You Chase When Someone Withdraws?

5 Reasons Why You Might Want to End Your Relationship

Margaret — Sat, 21 May 2011 19:47:38 +0000

When I married my ex-husband in 1963, I was determined to create a stable, loving relationship. I wanted an intact family where we could raise our children and share the joys of our grandchildren.

We did raise our children together, but ended the marriage after 30 years. We do get to share the joys . . . → Read More: 5 Reasons Why You Might Want to End Your Relationship

Are You and Your Partner Hurting Each Other?

Margaret — Mon, 07 Mar 2011 18:02:38 +0000

You and your partner might be hurting each other without realizing how and why you are doing this.

Are you aware of how you may be hurting your partner?

Are you aware of how your partner may be hurting you?

Are you aware of the painful feelings of loneliness, heartache and heartbreak you likely . . . → Read More: Are You and Your Partner Hurting Each Other?